Signs Of An Attractive Man

Attractiveness doesn't only come as looks. Regardless of how good looking you are, if you don't know what to do, what not to do, what to say, and what not to say, your chance of landing your dream girl is slim to none.

Most often, popular guys are not the ones with celebrity looks, but the ones who have mastered themselves in the art of “true attractiveness.” For those still struggling with what makes men truly attractive to women, I offer some advice.

• Be Responsible

You are going on a date with your girlfriend, you are driving, and luckily, you get stuck in traffic. Suddenly, you start venting about how everyone should just stay home and not bring their stupid cars out just to jam the street. You complain about how the road system in the city sucks and how you will not be able to make it to the movie on time. What would your girlfriend think of you?

How about using that time to have a conversation about something you haven't spoken about so far? You are the one who initiated the date, so why not try to make the most out of this not-so-pleasant situation?

Instead of venting at everybody, which does nothing more than show how immature you are, start a conversation about the movie you will be seeing that evening. Or, if you have that sense of humour, crack a few jokes, which is totally harmless. Your girlfriend will definitely notice how hard you are trying to lighten up the situation - and she'll enjoy it, too.

• Be Humble

Every person this planet values humility as one of the greatest human virtues. Women like men who are confident but at the same time, humble. As a society, we sometimes take humility to mean lack of confidence, but humility and confidence can definitely go together. When such a combination is found in a man, a woman will definitely be attracted.

• Loosen Up
  

What's even more important than the look is the voice. A Man who has a low tone of voice and relaxed shoulders exudes confidence and appeal to women. They see him as reliable. If you look too strained, even though your portfolio might be stellar, women generally will not find you as attractive.

• Little Things Matter

Kindness is good, but if kindness is the only thing going for you, you are out of luck. Add a tough side to your kindness and you will boost your score on the popularity scale.

If your girlfriend is struggling with the menu, take the lead and say, “Why don't we try this? It's really good. You will like it.” Don't just sit there and keep asking, “So, what do you want?” There is a difference between rushing her and taking the lead. The latter is a very good thing! You are sure to earn a few extra points.

• Be An Entertainer

An entertainer doesn't have to be on TV every night. If you have what it takes to make your girlfriend laugh, cry, smile, and frown, then you are her entertainer.
Love must be true and genuine, but just for now, treat your relationship like stage. Think about each scene, where each character is and what they will say. Think about how the play will begin and end. Make her the heroine and you, her prince charming.

Every girl says they want to meet prince charming, and he is character straight out of a story. You may not be prince charming but you can be the closest thing there is.

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Questions To Ask On Your New First Date

1. What is your favorite scene from your favorite book or movie?

Talking about mass media and pop culture can clue you in to similar interests and world views. "Books, movies, and music all transmit powerful messages of hope or emotion,” says Hogan. “If you have radically different preferences, there may be some fundamental differences between the way the two of you look at the world.” But asking your date to name his or her favorite scene can help you distill what’s important to him or her beyond just genre.

2. What do you love about your job?
The standard, “What do you do?” is a closed question that doesn’t reveal much about a person other than a job title. But if you phrase the career question a bit differently, you can delve into your date’s likes and dislikes; reveal his or her strengths; see how he or she handles conflict; and find out how happy this person is with life overall. Think about the different impressions you’ll form if your date answers the question, “Knowing that I’m helping people fulfill their dream” versus “Deciding what to order for lunch!”

3. What is your definition of a relationship?
Granted, it takes a bit of build up to ask this question (usually, once you begin discussing your dating histories, you can slip this one in), but it’s worth asking. Does your date want to be wined and dined, or are you both looking for a 50/50 relationship? It’s too soon to know what this specific potential relationship will look like, but a question like this lets you share your expectations and fundamental beliefs. “I like to ask this question early on, because I’ve found that some women I’ve dated didn’t know what they wanted out of our relationship,” says Mario Webb of Ft. Walton Beach, FL. “They came into it just hoping things work out without telling me what they expect. Needless to say, things haven’t worked out.” And if your date’s answer is outside the range of what you consider acceptable, you’ve saved yourself future heartbreak by finding out before you fall for him or her.

4. If money were no object, what would you do with your life?
This tried-and-true icebreaker showcases your date’s hopes, dreams, and even regrets topics that often remain untouched by even serious romantic partners. The answers can range from a desire to travel to going back to school to learning how to play the violin. Two buttoned-up stockbrokers might discover they both share a secret longing to be athletes or a shared devotion to public service. Your date’s response will help clue you in to common goals and interests that go beyond what you do on a day-to-day basis.

5. Will you share an embarrassing moment with me?
This fun question is great to ask when a date has gotten a little tense or quiet, because it reveals both details of your date’s history and his or her character. Just know that you may have to share an awkward experience first in order to make your date feel comfortable. “One of the great things is that our humanity is a bonding thing,” says Hogan. “Our ability to laugh at ourselves is critical in a budding relationship.” So make it clear that you’re not looking for dirt on that plagiarism incident in 11th grade, but rather something goofy, like the time you drove a golf cart into the water, installed a chandelier upside-down and so forth.

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How To Overcome a Bad Dating Experience

So, how can you get away from a bad date, without embarrasing yorself and the other person??

• Be Honest

So, your current escape plans includes bad table manners, checking other people out and using the restroom for a very long time. Do you really think you're doing anyone any favors? It's more likely that you are only making a fool out of yourself.
Instead, just be upfront with your date. Tell them, "Look, there is no hope for romance between us and I would like to end our date right now". Keep your integrity.
Don’t forget that the other person has feelings too. Show them some compassion. You do not want to leave a permanent scar on his or her dating experience. How would you like it if you had to wait 45 minutes for someone to use the restroom?
Besides, they may actually end up being a better friend than a date.

• Tell White Lies

So, you are not comfortable with telling your date the truth and you also do not want to hurt them. Now what? Try telling your date a white lie.
Some good ones include, "I am not feeling well tonight," "I have to get up early tomorrow morning," and "I have to get home before (whatever) time."
Just remember to use only one white lie for every bad date. Do not use more than one because your date will see through your lies and you will end up looking foolish.
Your white lie is well intentioned, so don't feel guilty about it. Not all lies are bad.

• Do NOT Take The Blame

If you can't bring yourself to tell your date a white lie, then you should place the blame on an external circumstance that you have no control over.
Tell them something believable. You could say, "I do not have time for a relationship right now because I am really busy at work." Avoid anything that sounds ludicrous like, "My mom will not let me date anymore."
Again, use only one external circumstance for every awful date that you have. Use more than one and your date will get the impression (ahem, realize) that you are making up excuses.
Placing the blame on an outside circumstance will help you get away from your date a lot easier without hurting anyone's feelings or making things awkward.

• Choose A Busy Location

When you go out with someone for the first time, it's impossible to know whether the date will be good or bad. Therefore, it is best to choose somewhere busy to go out on your first date. The place should be well lit and have a lot of people around.
Choosing somewhere busy will make it easier for you and your date to get along because there will be more things to discuss. Having a lot of people around eases the tension and helps you stop feeling like you are under the microscope. It's also a quick way to end the date because you could say that you need to go somewhere nearby and then blend in with the crowd. It's not as awkward as leaving someone alone at a dinner table.
Keep in mind that you should always bring plenty of cash for a taxi or a bus. You cannot rely on your date to take you home, if you choose this option.

• Make It A Double Date

If you feel that you cannot leave your date, then why not change the situation and make it a double date.
Let your date know that you would like to bring another couple. By having a friend or two along, you can take the date from horrible to fun. Why waste a perfect evening? Everyone can end up having a good time.
However, if your date rejects the idea of taking along another couple, assure them that in no way will this affect your own date.

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101 Things To Do With Your Lover

The guide that follows is a listing of 101 ways to having a more perfect relationship with the lover of your dreams. While most tips are intended for guys, I am sure you ladies are creative enaough to reverse the genders and use them yourselves. I wrote this coz I think that this is the sweet things your lover deserves. Altough some of the items listed may have been influenced from other lists I had picked up here and there, most of them came from my own experience. Obviously there may be some things listed that just aren't for you, and that's understandable. I wrote this to be a general guide that can help all kinds of couples. I guarantee that by doing some or all of these things with your romantic partner, you will bw well on your way to having a more perfect relationship. I realize most of these are not about sex, but they easily can be if you want too add it !!

1. Watch the sunset together
2. Back rubs/messages
3. French kiss
4. Hold them with hands inside the back of their shirt
5. Whisper to each other
6. Cook for each other
7. French kiss in the rain
8. Dress each other
9. Undress each other
10. Kiss every part of their body
11. Hold hands often
12. Sleep together (actually sleep together, not sex)
13. Sit and talk in just underwear
14. Buy surprise gifts for each other
15. Roses, daisies, or wild flowers
16. Find a nice secluded place to lie and watch the stars
17. Kiss them every chance you get
18. Don't wear underwear and let them find out
19. Lightly kiss their collarbone and jawbone just below their ear, then whisper "I love you."
20. Write poetry for each other
21. Kiss/smell their hair
22. Hugs are the universal medicine
23. Say "I love you" only when you mean it, and make sure they know you mean it
24. Tell her she's the only girl you ever want, and don't lie
25. Spend every second possible together
26. Tell her she never has to do anything she doesn't want to do, and mean it
27. Look into each other's eyes often
28. Very lightly push up their chin, look into their eyes, tell them you love them, and kiss them
29. Talk to each other using only your eyes, body language, and by humming different pitches
30. When in public, only flirt with each other
31. Walk behind them and put your hands in their front pockets
32. Put love notes in their pockets when they don't know it
33. Buy an inexpensive ring, place it on their finger, and say "I do."
34. Sing to each other
35. Read to each other
36. PDA's
37. Take advantage of any time alone together to cuddle
38. Draw a picture together
39. Let them sit on your lap
40. Lips were made for kissing. So were eyes, cheeks, collarbones, hands, and ears.
41. Kiss her on her stomach with an oceanic kiss (draw in a short breath or air just before the kiss)
42. Hold them around their hips/sides
43. Hold her hand, stare into her eyes, kiss her hand, and place it over your heart
44. Unless you can hear their heart beating, then you aren't close enough
45. Dance together
46. Cherish the picture you see when she falls asleep in your arms
47. Carry her when you have to walk through mud, or she's tired, cold, or even if she asks
48. Do cute things like write "I love you" on a piece of paper so they have to hold it up to a mirror to read it
49. Make excuses to call them often
50. Even if you are extremely busy doing something and they are away and know you are busy, go out of your way to call and say "I love you" or something else to show them you do
51. Call them from your vacation spot and tell them you miss them and were thinking about them, and be sure to mean it
52. Remember your dreams, and share them with each other
53. Ride your bike a healthy distance to see them if even just for a few hours, even if you have a car
54. After you've ridden/driven home, call them
55. Tell each other your most sacred secrets/fears
56. Be Prince Charming to her parents, and mean it
57. Act out a mutual non-sexual fantasy together
58. Brush her hair out of her face for her
59. Stay up all night and think of 101 ways to be sweet to them
60. Talk to her friends as well as her when you are all together
61. Go to church/worship/pray together, even if you aren't religious
62. Take her to see a movie and remember all the parts she liked
63. Cuddle together under a full moon on a clear night
64. Learn from each other and never make the same mistakes twice
65. Everyone deserves a second chance
66. Describe the joy that you genuinely feel just to be with him/her
67. Make obvious sacrifices for each other
68. Love each other together, don't just be together
69. You figure it out. (Haha.)
70. Write a story about how you met and fell in love with them, and give it to them
71. Let there never be a second during the day you aren't thinking about them, and make sure they know it
72. Pray about them every night before going to bed
73. Love yourself before you love anyone else
74. Learn to say sweet things in foreign languages
75. Dedicate songs on the radio to them if you can, even if you know they aren't listing so everyone else can know how you feel
76. Fall asleep on the phone with each other (intentionally)
77. Stand up for them if someone talks trash, whether or not they are present
78. Never forget the kiss goodnight, and always remember to say "sweet dreams"
79. Always try to tell them everything you love about them, and mean it
80. Draw cute little pictures and symbols on the letters you give them
81. Give her something of personal value for her to keep as a reminder of your love for her
82. Never do anything with other members of the opposite sex that you wouldn't do with them there with you
83. Find a particular tree in the part to call your own, and go there often to talk about your day
84. Make sure to put their wishes before your own
85. Always remember the anniversary and plan something special for the occasion; forgive and forget if they forget the anniversary
86. Board games on rainy days
87. Always say "bless you" or "God bless you" when she sneezes
88. Share with your friends how much you love them, and be truthful
89. Open your heart to them as much as or more than they do to you
90. Always say good, truthful things to them to cheer them up when they need it
91. Never talk about problems with ex's
92. Go on a walk and pick flowers for her (with or without her)
93. Be true to yourself- be true to each other, and always be true
94. Spend time thinking of creative dates
95. Go on one of those creative dates
96. To settle an argument, think of what is right, not who is right
97. Never say anything you know will make them jealous
98. Tell her parents how much you love her
99. Find a particular star in the night sky to call your own. When you know you can't be together, set a time for both of you to look at the same star and think of each other.
100. Fill your heart with love, and fill theirs with yours
101. Never wait for them to say "I love you" first, and always say it in return with meaning.

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THINGS TO DO ON A FIRST DATE

Inexpensive First Date Ideas:

1. The beach
Take a picnic, a bottle of wine and a rug and spend the day catching the sun together. Or you could take a dip together. All that splashing is bound to be great fun.
2. Picnic by a river
Prepare a basket of goodies, a chilled bottle of wine, and enjoy the day relaxing in each other's company.
3. The movies
Let your date choose the film. It will show a good gesture if you don't have the same taste in films. Select a unique theater (i.e. leather seating) to enhance the experience and arrive early to provide plenty of time to get to know each other.
4. Theme park
Big or small, everybody loves theme parks. Triple loop roller coasters, dodgems, etc. is the ideal date for the big kid in us.
5. Eat in S
how off your culinary skills and ask them round for dinner. Don’t over do the candles and music or you may frighten them away.
6. Indoor ice skating - or roller blade in the park
You can lean against each other for balance and warmth.
7. A sporting activity that you both like
If you are both big basketball fans, then take a trip to see a professional basketball game together.
8. Kite flying
It's a lot more fun than you may think!
9. A trip to the zoo
Everyone likes animals so a trip to the zoo makes for a perfect date.
10. Local museum or art gallery
This is only a good idea if you are both interested in museums.

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Expensive First Date Ideas:

1. Go to a concert
Take them to see their favorite band in concert and dance the night away.
2. Go for an expensive meal
Have her serenaded by one of the waiters with a bottle of champagne and a dozen red roses.
3. Horseback riding
Take a trip to the nearest horse farm. Spend the afternoon horseback riding and stopping to take in the scenery and afternoon lunch in a local inn.
4. Candle lit dinner for two aboard a yacht
Take her out to sea. Put on the full works, captain sailing, champagne on ice and lobsters for dinner.
5. Take in a show Get dressed up for the evening and go along to watch one of your favorite shows at a theatre house. Or go to a premier of a big blockbuster movie.
6. Horse drawn carriage at night Take a trip around the city and through the park on a horse drawn carriage. Have it take you to a swanky restaurant and wait while you dine.
7. Under the sea - Go scuba diving
There's three worlds to explore on Earth. What's under the surface, what's on the surface, and what's above the surface. Take your date on an adventure to discover what wonders the ocean holds.
8. Take to the sky - Go for a trip in a hot air balloon
The thrill and beauty of a hot air balloon ride is a very romantic and exciting date. And that's no hot air.
9. A trip to New York for the afternoon
Fly her to New York and back in an afternoon. This is the ultimate first date destination (especially if it is her first time there).
10. On top of the world
Prepare a basket of caviar, prawn cocktail, strawberries and cream and champagne on ice and take to the skies.

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Extravagant First Date Ideas:

1. Fly her to Paris and back
Take in all the sights that Paris has to offer. Finish the date with an expensive meal in one of the swanky restaurants in Paris.
2. Helicopter ride
Go for a flight over the city in a helicopter.
3. Become a Vegas Whale Dress up to the nines and go blow a fortune in a top casino.
4. Parachute jump
Take to the sky for the high of a lifetime. This is cannot be a surprise date unless you are sure this is what they want.
5. Climb to the top of the world
Go mounting climbing on a clear summer’s day. Don’t forget the flag for when you reach the top.
6. Go swimming with dolphins
This has to be the ultimate experience of a lifetime and if you aim to impress, this is the way to do it.
7. Parasailing
Take to the sea, have lunch, then the sky's the limit.
8. Eat in
Hire a top chef and waiting staff to prepare a meal and evening that your date won't soon forget.

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How To Know If Your Lover Is Cheating

I think almost everybody could agree with me on this one: The only thing worse than finding out that your spouse is a cheater is not knowing. Not knowing if your partner is faithful can eat away at you and cause pain that can last months or even years. Betrayal is the worst form of disrespect and can leave wounds that won’t heal for a long time, if ever. Before we dive into sneaky ways that you can catch your partner red handed, lets first discuss why people cheat. I have often thought to myself, Why is it that animals are able to stay faithful to each other for a lifetime, while many humans can not seem to handle this task for more than a matter of months? The fact is that humans are the only creatures that realize they have a choice to how many partners they chose to have at a single moment in time. In addition, in recent studies, scientists have found that males with higher than average testosterone levels may be at greater risk of being involved in extramarital affairs than males with low testosterone levels. However, unlike animals, we have the ability to make decisions. We are able to override these hormones at any given time. Still, many chose not to. Testosterone or no testosterone, I still think cheating ultimately has to do with unhappiness. And, due to our ability to make decisions, those who chose to cheat go to great lengths to hide their affair. This is because they know what they are doing is wrong. This is why people who are cheaters are often hard to catch. So on that note, here are some potential signs that your partner may be cheating:

1. Change in Usual Work Pattern: Extended hours or possibly even over night shifts. This is the most popular excuse used by a cheating partner.
2. Phone Turned Off/Not Returning Calls: If you try to contact your partner during times that you are suspicious of them being unfaithful and they do not answer the phone or answer it but quickly find a reason to hang up with you, there’s a good chance that they are not being faithful.
3. Change in General Attitude: If your husband/wife suddenly makes it apparent that they are bored around you, or maybe seem overly excited on particular days, this could be a sign that they are having a relationship with somebody else. Sometimes a cheating mate may even become very angry or not want to handle simple arguments.
4. Lack of Money: Generally speaking, a deceptive partner will be spending time, as well as money, on their new date. The amount spent may greatly affect their usual income, depending on how much they are looking to impress their new partner.
5. Change in Attire: The sudden urge to dress attractively or get a new hairstyle, shave often, etc may be due to the fact that your partner is looking to appear more attractive to another individual.
6. Change in Relationship: If your partner suddenly stops confiding in you or seeking your advice this may be due to them finding it elsewhere.
7. New Hobbies: A cheating spouse may take interest in new things that don’t add up - such as new music, a new sport, etc.
8. Secretive Conversations: Does your partner run out of the room when he/she answers the phone to handle business? Or do they speak in a very low tone?
9. Deleted E-mails / Odd Computer Habits: If your husband/wife is startled by your presence when they are online or if they are constantly cleaning out their mailbox, there could be a reason for it. It is not normal behavior for a spouse to quickly exit off of a screen when someone enters the room unless they are planning a surprise vacation or doing something they know is wrong.

With that being said, here are some ways to catch a cheating partner :
1. Show up at your Spouses Work - Pick one of those days when they are working late and surprise them with a hot meal or desert. Make sure you have a reason for going up to their job so you don’t look too suspicious.
2. Check Mileage on their Car - This is a surefire way to see if your partner has been where they claim to have been. However, take into account if they needed to go to the bank or any other locations. A few extra miles here or there do not constitute as being disloyal.
3. Record Keep - Record dates and times of suspicious phone calls. If your mate is cheating you should be able to draw a conclusion that relates these times to other incidents. For example, if someone calls and hangs up on Wednesday evenings, followed by your partner getting called into work, this could be a tip for you to log.
4. Keep Quiet - Don’t open your mouth until you have the evidence you need for conviction. Telling your partner you think they may be seeing someone else will only complicate the patter because you have opened their eyes to the fact that they are not as sneaky as they would like to be.
5. Check Receipts - If you are able, check receipts found in pockets, the car, drawers, etc. If your partner is going out they are bound to eventually slip up and leave valuable evidence somewhere. Bank records of money withdrawals or credit card bills are also good ones. If looking at a credit card bill, pay close attention to detail, like where they are purchasing gasoline. Is it near your home? Or is it in a city that doesn’t fit into their usual travels?
6. Spy - If you are able to do your own surveillance or have a friend help you, do it. Watch what your partner is doing when they say they are working, etc.
7. Computer Research - Read e-mails, check cookies, etc. See what your partner is doing when they are online. Over half of cheating partners use the internet as a form of communication because it is easy and confidential. If you check your partners cookies you will be able to see what sites they are visiting. This can be very valuable, for example, if your partner’s e-mail address is mike@hotmail.com and the cookies say that they are constantly logging into a Yahoo account. Have you tried all of the previous mentioned steps and still feel as if you are being betrayed? If so then you may have to go to extremes: Lie Detector Test, GPS Tracking or hire a Private Investigator. But before making the decision to do any of these things, take into consideration that they are very costly. You need to weigh your relationship and determine if it is worth the money. Remember that if you are at the point where you are 100% convinced your spouse is a cheater, you do not need to waste the money, you all ready know the answer. If you know they are a cheater, having a Private Investigator follow them around for weeks is not going to make a difference. Only you know your thoughts. Before making any decision you need to be prepared to accept the results. Will having your mate pass a lie detector test really make a difference? What if they pass with flying colors? Will you suddenly trust them? What if the work hours keep getting later and later and things still don’t add up? What then? Be honest with yourself and your feelings up front.

source : bestlovetips

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When Couples Reluctant Role Sharing

As the name implies, a housewife wan not done alone, but with the couple. All equal shared responsibility. Instead, the tasks were performed household together. There's a good idea to suggest to the couple to do the tasks together, for the sake of togetherness and closeness with the child. The following benefits can be obtained if both parties share the roles

1. Role division

No need straight to what tasks women or men at home, the core must cooperate with each other.
2. Do not Make Burden

Do not make the division of roles and tasks as a burden, but as learning in participating in the household.
3. Close With Children

Accompany children learn or feed meal, will benefit the couple and draw closer to the child emotionally.
4. Emotion Bridge

Closeness between the child-parent, the child will make simple expression, not rigid, and able to communicate well with parents.
5. Do not prestige

It was not his time again he acted as king at home and should always get served. The man was wearing matching aprons and cooking in the kitchen.
What if your face type of conservative men, who tend to be reluctant to share the roles and domestic duties with his wife?

According to Bayu Widiawati, psychologists of Psychological Practice, Jakarta

"type guy like this do not be forced if still do not want to share household tasks. It could then

even a war of words, and children become victims."
It's wife who must have a high tolerance and understanding the nature of this type husband. Usually these properties are known since the beginning of marriage, so could not have happened suddenly. "It's wife who inevitably had to take over household duties," said Widia.
If the husband wanted to share the task even forced, Widia suggested, make the dynamics to get a solution. Look past the husband, what kind of teaching from his family. Maybe he's the type of guy who spoiled or selfish, that I can not share with others. "As a result, was sorry for his wife who must always understand him."
Until when the wife have to endure? According Widia, until the time his wife had had enough and feel it is time for professional help. Field trip to a psychologist or a third person who can help, if the wife had told but does not work.
Therefore, it could not hurt husbands and wives learn from each other, do not shut down, and want to share the role. And do not impose a problem on one partner. Remember, your child will be proud if that does not always take her report card her mother, but also his father, or even both.

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