tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12836280724694114472024-03-14T07:21:59.551+07:00Everybody is in Love,...Trizzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06057683308455025243noreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1283628072469411447.post-44461986338756932182009-12-22T10:08:00.003+07:002009-12-22T12:01:58.836+07:00<span style=";font-family:trebuchet ms;font-size:180%;" >How To Fall In Love No Matter What People Think</span><br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/SzBSjZI6plI/AAAAAAAAAPQ/ksNDX4uZRxs/s1600-h/couple_bar_1379373c.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 400px; height: 250px;" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/SzBSjZI6plI/AAAAAAAAAPQ/ksNDX4uZRxs/s400/couple_bar_1379373c.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5417921119723890258" border="0" /></a><br /><span style="font-family:georgia;">Would you like to fall in love? In spite of what everyone else says, do you want to believe love is out there for you? Have you heard how all the good ones are gone, no one wants to make a commitment these days, and everyone is married?<br />There are lots of negative voices that will tell you that love might exist but you will probably never find it. Don't believe them. Here are some of the ways you can fight off the messengers of hollow hope:<br /></span><br /><span style="font-family:georgia;">* Stay away from conversations that lead to conclusions of hopelessness.<br />Just because that is someone else's opinion doesn't mean it has to be yours. Look for conversations of possibility that start with words like, "I can," and "I will."<br /><br /></span><span class="fullpost"><br /><span style="font-family:georgia;">* Resist being manipulated by the media.<br />The media may whisper or scream that you need to look or act in a certain way in order to attract someone. People who are overweight, bald, past the age of 50 or more, driving a late model car, or wearing '60s polyester suits meet and fall in love every day. So can you.<br /></span></span><br /><span class="fullpost" style="font-family:georgia;">* Pay attention to selective exposure. </span><span class="fullpost"><br /><span style="font-family:georgia;">People who feel and think the same way begin to believe that this collective viewpoint is a law. If you think there is no one out there for you and you have gathered unto yourself five or ten friends who think the same way, then you are going to be rooted in this belief, and you will act accordingly. Make a conscious effort to find and hang out with friends who have a belief of possibility and hope.<br /></span><br /></span><span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;">Build a bank of people who can resist the voices that say all the good ones are gone. In fact, the next time you hear that phrase, stand up and be heard say, "All the good ones can not possibly be gone I'm still here!"<br /><br /><br /><br /></span><br /></span>Trizzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06057683308455025243noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1283628072469411447.post-80170070975035483962009-12-21T19:18:00.005+07:002009-12-21T19:45:19.912+07:00<span style="font-size:180%;">The Best Ways To Meet A Man </span><span style="font-size:180%;">To Date<br /><br /></span><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/Sy9p4y69b4I/AAAAAAAAAPI/DkAuoik_4Ms/s1600-h/first-date-ideas_Full.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 400px; height: 260px;" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/Sy9p4y69b4I/AAAAAAAAAPI/DkAuoik_4Ms/s400/first-date-ideas_Full.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5417665301212655490" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">1. Do not develop hard-and-fast rules about the ways you’re willing to go about your search. Some women, for instance, have a policy against being fixed up. But you need to be flexible and willing to experiment with a variety of strategies, particularly if you find yourself in a drought. My theory has always been that a winning prospect only comes around every six to seven blind dates, so you may have to chitchat with five chumps in order to get there. You also need to be flexible about the places you go to meet guys. If you head to the same bars all the time, you’re going to see the same old guys or the same type. There are always interesting new ways to meet men, and you need to keep your ear to the ground to hear what’s hot at a given moment. It keeps changing. One minute networking cocktail parties are all the rage, and the next something else is. I heard lately, for instance, that day spas are starting to offer times when singles can mingle.<br /><br />2. Be unashamedly proactive and methodical. Cold-hearted calculation doesn’t seem like a very magical approach to meeting the love of your life, but there will be plenty of time for magic once you’re dating. Tell yourself that you will do at least two specific things every week to facilitate your quest. And when opportunities present themselves, make things happen rather than just allowing them to unfold. For instance, if you see a hotty and there doesn’t seem to be an easy way to meet him, accidentally bump into him, for God’s sake.<br /><br />3. If you are going to a party, bar or event, don’t travel in huge wolf packs of women. It’s hard to break into a group that size, plus it’s easy for a guy to think that the moment he turns around after talking to you, all the other chicks are going to laugh hysterically about a comment he made or even the pants he’s wearing. Two is an OK number (you and a friend), but three is even better because one friend has a pal to talk to if you start chatting someone up.<br /><br />4. Avoid being too glam. When you’re all dolled up, you may feel like a man magnet, but guys are often put off by too much product. Lots of makeup and tons of designer labels scream high-maintenance, and guys don’t like that. One other tip: Consider wearing something that could be a conversation-starter, like a t-shirt with something funny written on it or a faux-fur vest that a guy may ask to touch.<br /><br /><span class="fullpost">5. Have a drink in your hand. We once had a girl write a piece about her experience being a wing woman someone hired by shy guys to chat up women in bars and then introduce them. She provided a great tip: Don’t stand around empty-handed. If you’re holding a drink, a guy won’t feel he has to immediately buy one for you. But then later, if things are going well, ordering you a refill gives him something positive to do. </span><br /><br /><span class="fullpost">6. Do not be too coy. Guys, as we know, like the chase. But if you seem too elusive, guys won’t approach. These days, men shy away from the slightest chance of rejection. So what’s a coy move that works? Make eye contact with an object of desire, hold for three seconds, and then look away. Repeat. If he’s interested, you’ve given him a pretty clear signal that it’s safe to head your way. Once you’re talking to a guy, you don’t want to be all over him. But let him know in a more subtle manner that you’re interested for instance, by laying your hand on his arm when you make a point. </span><br /><br /><span class="fullpost">7. When there is an adorable guy suddenly in your path, don’t be so worried about saying the perfect thing that you end up saying nothing at all. As long as you seem friendly, you’ll be OK, so just get something out. Asking for help is a surefire conversation-starter. If you’re in an electronics store, try “Excuse me, could you tell me the difference between LCD and plasma screen TVs?” Humor can work, too. If you’re standing by an elevator, you could slyly say, “I hear that pressing the button 20 or 30 times actually does make it come faster.” Another good trick: playfully polling a guy. An example: “I’m taking a survey for the bar. Did you have to drive more than five miles to get here?” You could also come up with a question about yourself, like: “Do you think I should get blue contact lenses?” </span><br /><br /><span class="fullpost">8. Be positive. A few years ago I arranged for a single friend of mine to sit next to a hot guy at a charity dinner. Through the night, I watched them from my table and I had every reason to believe things were going well. But later the guy told me that my friend had offered up an endless stream of negative riffs. She hated the subway, her boss, teacup dogs, e.t.c. She thought that confessing things she didn’t like was a way of bonding with him, but guys are turned off by negativity. </span><br /><br /><span class="fullpost">9. Really hear what he has to say. When you’re nervous, it’s easy to become overly self-conscious. You might ask a guy you’ve just met plenty of questions, but be so worried about what to say next that you don’t pay close attention to his answers. Here’s a trick to help you focus: Wait a few beats after he says something and think about what he’s said. Then allow your next comment or question to really play off what he’s told you.</span><br /></div><span class="fullpost"><br /></span>Trizzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06057683308455025243noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1283628072469411447.post-74713338304239459462009-12-11T13:08:00.003+07:002009-12-11T13:30:41.334+07:00<span style="font-size:180%;"><span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;">Be Compatible Before Falling In</span></span><span style="font-size:180%;"><span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;"> Love<br /><br /></span></span><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/SyHmrRD0ZrI/AAAAAAAAAO4/3glP6s3qIOo/s1600-h/art-of-womanhood-6.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 277px; height: 369px;" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/SyHmrRD0ZrI/AAAAAAAAAO4/3glP6s3qIOo/s400/art-of-womanhood-6.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5413861858064230066" border="0" /></a><br /><br />Long-term relationships fail for many reasons, but one of the most common is incompatibility in important areas of your life. It’s all too easy to overlook major differences in the first bloom of love, but will the traits and beliefs that seem endearing in the first months of a new relationship still be acceptable in five, ten, or forty years? The sad thing is that a painful breakup could have been avoided, simply by having an honest discussion of important issues before the relationship got too deep. If you take a hard look at the ways you differ from your new flame, you can spare yourself a broken heart and a lot of time down the road. Here are five questions that you should ask yourself before your relationship gets too serious.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">1. Are Our Politics Compatible?</span><br />Politics is an issue which is often ignored in the early stages of a relationship. Who wants to think about global warming when you could be planning a romantic getaway? However, people tend to be passionate about their political beliefs, and differing views can cause relationships to explode. Falling in love with people who share your political tendencies will make a smoother road to travel in the future.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">2. Are Our Religious Views Compatible?</span><br />Opposing religious views might work out for two adults who respect one another, even if you do have difficulty reconciling your agnostic views with his dedication to spending Sunday mornings in church. However, they can become a strain in a long term relationship, especially if you plan to have children.3. Are Our Patterns of Communication Compatible?<br />Some couples frequently flare up at each other, shouting and yelling over every little problem – only to be doting on each other five minutes later. Others would be badly hurt, preferring to discuss disagreements calmly and peaceably. Difficulties often arise when communication patterns within the relationship vary widely.<br /><br /><span class="fullpost"><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">4. Do We Have Similar Visions of the Future?</span><br />When you first fall in love, all you can think about is the next time that you can see your new flame again. However, this is the best time to consider the future as well. If you’ve always dreamed of children and she doesn’t want them, or you envision spending your life in the country while he wants the glamour of city life, it will be difficult to combine your differing views into a comfortable life together.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">5. Do We Have Similar Ideas About Love?</span><br />Everybody has different ideas about how people who are in love should act. Perhaps you show your affection through your actions instead of your words, or you want your independence while your lover wants to spend all your spare time together. The more compatible these opinions, the easier your life together will be.<br /><br />With love, honest communication, and respect, any of these differences may be overcome. However, knowing the areas in which you and your new love are not a perfect fit will allow you to address these issues early on. If you are not able to come to an agreement, you will know that the relationship will not work before it is too late.<br /><br /></span><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><!--Session data--><input onclick="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" type="hidden"><div id="refHTML"></div>Trizzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06057683308455025243noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1283628072469411447.post-7916650450710627932009-12-10T15:37:00.005+07:002009-12-10T16:16:53.561+07:00<span style="font-size:180%;"><span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;">THINGS THAT KILL A LOVING RELATIONSHIP</span></span><br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/SyC5LTG6bMI/AAAAAAAAAOw/qB4ZW6f3sFE/s1600-h/bronkenrelationship.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 465px; height: 326px;" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/SyC5LTG6bMI/AAAAAAAAAOw/qB4ZW6f3sFE/s400/bronkenrelationship.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5413530355858304194" border="0" /></a><br /><div style="text-align: justify;font-family:georgia;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">Not Listening</span><br /><br />Communication is the crux of all relationships, and if the communication is not strong then your relationship will not be. Not only is talking about your feelings important, but listening is also vital.<br /><br />When your mate is unleashing his or her emotions on you, make it evident that you are taking what he or she says into consideration. Do this by showing a sincere interest in things you know are important to him or her, regardless if it is a minor thing or a major thing.<br />Also, if your significant other notifies you of an aspect of your personality or behavior that he or she dislikes that is within reason, try your hardest to prevent yourself from doing such things in the future. Although you may not completely eliminate that annoying habit, the effort that you show will be enough to satisfy that person.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Excess Baggage</span><br /><br />Everyone has baggage; however, the key is dealing with that baggage and not allowing it to influence your relationship.<br /><br />Everyone goes through obstacles throughout their day that cause stress. However, by no means should you tell your mate every time you are upset. With that said, do tell the person when something major happens to you-not when you've been plagued with something as minor as a paper cut. Nobody likes to be burdened with other people's downfalls on a constant basis because they are dealing with their own misfortunes as well.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Commitment Problems</span><br /><br />With time, a certain comfort level is reached in a relationship. When this happens, a relationship becomes serious, or in other words, committed. For some, the word "committed" entails labels and obligations.<br />In order to be in a committed relationship, you must be mature and realize that it will take hard work and dedication to maintain. Make sure that your mate knows where he or she stands with you at all times. This is achieved through actions. Show your mate how much he or she means to you by writing a sentimental poem or by literally telling that person.<br />Commitment is scary for many because it serves as the end to just being you and the beginning for you being two. So if you are in fact serious about your mate, do not force him or her into a commitment; rather, let things ease into that stage. Do this first by taking the relationship day to day, and then as things progress, subtly slip hints that you are beginning to think about your future together.<br /><br /></div><span class="fullpost"> <span style="font-weight: bold;font-family:georgia;" >Family Matters </span> <span style="font-family:georgia;"><br /><br />The family – you have to love them even though most times it would be easier to throw pixie dust on them and wish they would vanish off to Never land. However, the reality is that you must make sure you are on your best behavior in front of them if you want a serious long-lasting relationship with your mate. </span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">Keep in mind that you must think of this task as a job. You can make a great first impression, but the staying power of that impression is what counts. Make sure the family feels that you are not only getting to know them for your mate, but that you are also getting to know them because you actually like them as people.<br /><br />With that said, invite them to join you in activities that do not include your mate such as shopping. </span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">Also, make sure you exercise great mannerisms. This means always cleaning the table after a meal without being asked and always offering to help in chores around the house. Not only must you go that extra mile, but you also must make sure you impress while doing so. This means always bringing a dish of the family's favorite food each time you come over, or calling the person's mom when at the supermarket to see if she needs anything. </span> <span style="font-weight: bold;font-family:georgia;" ><br /><br />Being a Workaholic </span> <span style="font-family:georgia;"><br /><br />In this day and age, the height of success is a long and rough road to travel. In your voyage to riches, you may unintentionally neglect your special someone. </span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">Your mate can only be so supportive. Remember a long-lasting relationship is as fulfilling as a successful career. As a career entails obstacles and levels to reach the top, so do relationships. However, this does not mean to place your relationship over your career, but rather balance the two. </span> <span style="font-family:georgia;"><br />To maintain this juggling act, you should try to invite your mate to work gatherings and keep him or her updated on the events in your career. This way they will feel connected to that aspect of your life and will be more understanding if you sometimes decide to choose work over them.</span> <span style="font-weight: bold;font-family:georgia;" ><br /><br />YOU DON’T NEED THEM</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;"><br />If your mate still ends up breaking up with you even after all of this, do not waste your time being upset; rather, be relieved with the reassurance that you can do much better.<br /><br /></span></span><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><!--Session data--><input onclick="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" type="hidden"><div id="refHTML"></div>Trizzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06057683308455025243noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1283628072469411447.post-3976155607017188132009-12-09T17:27:00.004+07:002009-12-09T17:48:57.224+07:00<span style=";font-family:trebuchet ms;font-size:180%;" >How To Handle A Break Up Aft</span><span style=";font-family:trebuchet ms;font-size:180%;" >er You Get Dumped</span><br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/Sx9_RZhhVbI/AAAAAAAAAOo/od1yBajH2IQ/s1600-h/11-08-how_to_survive_a_breakup2.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 347px; height: 346px;" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/Sx9_RZhhVbI/AAAAAAAAAOo/od1yBajH2IQ/s400/11-08-how_to_survive_a_breakup2.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5413185214008612274" border="0" /></a><br /><div style="text-align: justify;font-family:georgia;"><span style="font-size:100%;"><span style="font-size:180%;">So</span>, you have been dumped. While you are well aware that you are better off without him or her, there is an aching pain in your heart that misses them and wishes you were still together. Perhaps you just miss the routine and convenience of doing things together and don’t know how to keep yourself occupied.<br /><br />Unfortunately, many of us tend to make mistakes when trying to get over a recent break up. This not only prolongs the recovery process but also makes it even more heart breaking to deal with. Figuring out how to manage your time after getting dumped is crucial in order to have a quick recovery and move on with your love life. These lessons are important to follow, so breaking up isn’t so hard to do.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold; font-style: italic;">Breakup Tip #1</span> <span style="font-weight: bold; font-style: italic;"><br />Do not: shut yourself away from your friends.</span><br /><br />While you may be tempted to lock yourself in a room and listen to sad breakup music, resist the urge. It is also not a good idea to call his or her cell phone to listen to the recorded message repeatedly, or listen to ‘your song.’<br /><br />Friends can provide supportive advice and make you smile even at your most depressed times. By shutting yourself away in your bedroom you will only elevate your emotional status and feel sorry for yourself.<br /><br />Give your friends a chance to take you out and talk about it. Whether it is a trip to an ice-cream parlor or to a dance club, a change of scenery can take your mind off your recent breakup. Sometimes friends and fun are the only way to take your mind off negative experiences.<br /><br />Remember, everyone has been through rejection at some point in their life and talking about your experiences with people you trust can make hard times more tolerable.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold; font-style: italic;">Breakup Tip #2</span> <span style="font-weight: bold; font-style: italic;"><br />Do: Hide old pictures and banish the stuffed animals he/she gave to you.</span><br /><br />This step involves distancing yourself from the symbols that represent your relationship. On top of that, organize all the e mails you sent to one another in a separate folder, titled ‘ignore.’ If you really want to, you can even delete them.<br /><br />All these items did at one point have sentimental value; however, now you must move on. This step isn’t possible unless you let go of some memories. It isn’t necessarily to burn the pictures of your happy couple days but piling them into a shoe box out of your direct view will help you forget about your ex-partner. Some degree of separation is fundamental in moving on with your life. If you keep staring at pictures of the happy couple days, you will only be reminiscing about the past – unable to move on to the future.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold; font-style: italic;">Breakup Tip #3</span> <span style="font-weight: bold; font-style: italic;"><br />Do not: Throw eggs at his car, kidnap her dog or leave nasty messages on his answering machine.</span><br /><br />Okay, so that may be a little more than you would do anyway, but you get the idea.<br /><br />Being mature is a difficult task when dealing with a breakup. However, regardless of how the relationship ended, refrain from scheming creative ways to make their life miserable. Getting dumped sucks, but try to look at the situation from a positive perspective: If your partner didn’t really care about you, then the relationship was not worth it and it’s time to move on with your love life.<br /><br />Now, put the cap back on the permanent marker and move away from his car.<br /><br /></span><span style="font-weight: bold; font-style: italic;font-size:100%;" class="fullpost" >Breakup Tip #4</span><span style="font-weight: bold; font-style: italic;font-size:100%;" ><br /></span><span style="font-weight: bold; font-style: italic;font-size:100%;" class="fullpost" >Do: Give new people a chance to get to know you.</span><span style="font-size:100%;"><br /><br /></span><span class="fullpost" style="font-size:100%;">Everyone needs a transition period of being alone after a breakup. This is often referred to as being ‘on the rebound.’ However, dwelling on your past breakup for too long can make you feel lonely and depressed. During the recovery process, sometimes the sooner you meet another partner, the sooner you can forget about what happened in the past and give love another chance.</span><span style="font-size:100%;"><br /><br /></span><span class="fullpost" style="font-size:100%;">Spending your evenings alone, in fear of being dumped again is not only a waste of time but it also gives your former mate the satisfaction to observe that you are still heartbroken. Getting back into the dating world is an important step in moving on with your life.</span><span style="font-size:100%;"><br /><br /></span><span class="fullpost" style="font-size:100%;">After dealing with a breakup, you might be more selective in the type of man/woman you are looking for and your standards might be elevated to a new level. Good for you! Use the experience and everything you have learned about yourself to meet someone who is perfect for you.</span><span style="font-size:100%;"><br /></span><span class="fullpost" style="font-size:100%;"> </span><span style="font-size:100%;"><br /></span><span style="font-weight: bold; font-style: italic;font-size:100%;" class="fullpost" >Remember love takes time</span><span style="font-size:100%;"><br /><br /></span><span class="fullpost" style="font-size:100%;">Letting your heart heal takes time, especially after a heart wrenching breakup. Keep in mind that we are all strong enough to easily recover from a breakup if we truly have the desire to move on.</span><span style="font-size:100%;"><br /><br /></span><span class="fullpost" style="font-size:100%;">Men and women often spend too much time figuring out what went wrong in their past relationship. Forget about vandalizing his new convertible or kidnapping her new puppy. Instead, concentrate on what to wear to the singles bar tonight.</span></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><!--Session data--><input onclick="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" type="hidden"><div id="refHTML"></div>Trizzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06057683308455025243noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1283628072469411447.post-73726297556476517772009-12-08T15:05:00.003+07:002009-12-08T15:16:15.349+07:00<span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;"><span style="font-size:180%;">The Reasons Why You Are Still Single and Lonely</span></span><br /><br /><div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size:100%;"><span style="font-family:georgia;"><span style="font-size:180%;">T</span>ired of first dates tha</span></span><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/Sx4KQ8TX13I/AAAAAAAAAOg/bzwk1Ax-eRg/s1600-h/woman+on+couch.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 400px;" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/Sx4KQ8TX13I/AAAAAAAAAOg/bzwk1Ax-eRg/s400/woman+on+couch.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5412775088327481202" border="0" /></a><span style="font-size:100%;"><span style="font-family:georgia;">t don't result in relationships? Sick of chasing after guys who clearly aren't ready to commit? If you'</span></span><span style="font-size:100%;"><span style="font-family:georgia;">ve made an all-out effort to find your match with little success, maybe it's time to rethink your approach toward searching for true love. Here you'll find five common mistakes women make in the dating game. If one or two sound familiar, don't beat yourself up. Just recognize that you deserve better and commit to making a change for good.<br /><br /></span><span style="font-weight: bold;font-family:georgia;" >1. If you think love will never find you, it w</span></span><span style="font-size:100%;"><span style="font-family:georgia;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">on't.</span> I receive many posts on the Dating from women whose romantic disappointments have left them convinced there is something inherently unlovable about them. They say things like: "Who would want me anyway? I'm sure I'm going to wind up alone."</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">Obviously these women are as worthy of love as you </span></span><span style="font-size:100%;"><span style="font-family:georgia;">and I. (Yes, we're worthy!) But they've come down with something so awful it can keep them solo for years to come: self-fulfilling prophecy, or SFP. SFP isn't contagious but it will make potential dates run the opposite way. It's an insidious disease. Physically, it leaves the sufferer untouched. But the more one walks around saying, "I will never find love," the higher the odds that expectation will come true. Contrarily, the sunnier one's thoughts — "I'm such a cool, happy person that I'm bound to find love" — the sunnier the forecast for her romantic future.</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">If you're among those throwing one too many pity parties for herself, get busy: Start a journal. Each day write down something lovable about yourself. It will get easier with time. You can even consider calling or e-mailing a few close friends or relatives, so they can share reasons they think a man would be lucky to have you. Level with them about why you're making this request, and they'll probably be happy to help. Whenever a negative thought threatens to invade your mind, replace it with a positive one.</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">Uncover the other love mistakes that might be keeping you single right here:</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;"><br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">2. Kick the bad-boy habit</span>. News flash: Good guys have not gone the way of the 8-track. They exist in bulk. The trick is learning to both recognize and want a man of worth. "For years I was attracted to guys whose mission was to hurt me," says reformed bad-boy lover Adel Harris, a 32-year-old Chicago Web designer. "It would be obvious from the get-go. They'd never call when they said they would, were constantly caught in stupid lies, said they loved me, then ran around with other women. One even tried to seduce my best friend." During these years, Adel kept railing that her dates were the best of a bad lot: No man could be kind or faithful. Then she attended a cousin's wedding. "Naomi's bridegroom Rick was the sweetest man in the world. He obviously adored my cousin and lived to please her," says Adel. "Seeing the sweet, loving light in his eyes, I vowed that one day I'd meet a man who would look at me like I was a treasure."</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">Adel took a dating hiatus and did some much-needed thinking about the root of her obsession with bad boys. "My dad was a life-of-the-party type, but as a husband and father he was cold and uncaring," she admits. "He left for good when I was 10.<br />After that, the few times I'd see him I'd practically do cartwheels to win his attention. When I was old enough to have a boyfriend, I began metaphorically dating my dad. Once I realized what I'd been doing, I started seeing the appeal of guys who weren't as flashy or unreliable, guys who were capable of caring."</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">Today Adel is engaged — to a Rick type. "I can't believe I wasted all that time on men who treated me like dirt," she says. "But it was worth it, I guess because it eventually taught me to truly appreciate a good man."</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:georgia;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">3. Repeat after me: Love is not a synonym for leash.</span> When Gina Thomas, a 29-year-old Manhattan magazine art director, got engaged, it seemed like a dream come true. In her fantasies she and her fiancé Bill would do everything together. Bill had a different definition. "Once we moved in together I assumed Bill would cut out the biweekly poker games with the guys and the occasional nights out after work," says Gina. "Our jobs left us little free time as it was. We shouldn't have wasted it on other people."</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">Wanting your partner to be with you 24/7 is not realistic or fair, yet like Gina many women feel abandoned or unloved if their other half has needs (say, for male camaraderie or occasional solitude) that can't be fulfilled by the relationship.</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">Gina's insecurity and neediness led her to make Bill feel like he was under house arrest. And no matter how plush the jail, eventually a prisoner wants to be set free. The two split.</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">The happiest couples allow each other breathing room to grow. The more dynamic their lives apart (in terms of jobs, hobbies, friends), the more they'll have to share with each other when they get together.</span> </span><span style="font-family: georgia;font-size:100%;" class="fullpost" ><br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">4. Don't commit emotional infidelity.</span> It is vital that your partner be someone you treat with courtesy and kindness. If you tell all of your favorite jokes and "bad day" stories to a friend or male coworker, what will you have left when you get home to your honey? It may sound crazy, but there is a premium on a person's time and energy — there is only so much of it to go around — and if you spend yours with someone else, you're potentially hurting your relationship. Even worse is betraying your partner's confidences with a male friend or coworker. Just ask Doreen Badenstadt, a 34-year-old chef from Santa Fe, New Mexico. "After six years of marriage my husband Ed and I started growing apart. Nothing drastic, but he was no longer the first person I'd tell when something good or bad happened," she says. "That honor belonged to my neighbor Don."</span><span style="font-size:100%;"> </span><span style="font-family: georgia;font-size:100%;" class="fullpost" >Doreen never slept with Don, but she did begin sharing intimacies, such as the fact that her husband wore a toupee, a fact Don joked about at a neighborhood barbecue. Ed was shocked and felt betrayed at hearing his business discussed over hot dogs and beer. He accused his wife of disloyalty, precipitating the biggest fight the pair had ever had. The couple patched things up, but Doreen was reminded the hard way that her marriage needed to be the number one relationship in her life.</span><span style="font-size:100%;"><br /><br /></span><span style="font-family: georgia;font-size:100%;" class="fullpost" ><span style="font-weight: bold;">5. You're wrong if you need to be right. </span>When Anne Ryan, a 29-year-old from Chicago, met her boyfriend Sam, she was delighted that the two had so much in common. Both were lawyers and loved to tango, downhill ski and play chess. Both were also stubbornly full of pride. "Sam was perfect except for one horrible flaw," says Anne. "He always needed to be right — whether it was about which restaurant served better burgers or which of us had apologized first after our last fight. What I didn't realize until it was too late was that I was just as bad. I couldn't admit that I'd forgotten to give him an important phone message or that his desire to move to L.A. was something I should seriously consider. I wanted to stay in Chicago and that was all that mattered. It was my way or the highway."</span><br /><br /><div style="text-align: right;"><span style="font-size:85%;">source : lovearticles.com<br /></span></div></div>Trizzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06057683308455025243noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1283628072469411447.post-12780350804782824632009-12-04T17:32:00.006+07:002009-12-04T18:09:31.992+07:00<span style="font-size:180%;"><span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;"><br />How To Spot A Cheating Lover</span></span><br /><br /><div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size:100%;"><span style="font-family:georgia;"><span style="font-size:180%;">C</span>ommitment is a tradit</span></span><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/SxjsCTqn96I/AAAAAAAAAOQ/9MYMkfNbdZg/s1600-h/caught-cheating-post.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer; width: 396px; height: 350px;" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/SxjsCTqn96I/AAAAAAAAAOQ/9MYMkfNbdZg/s400/caught-cheating-post.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5411334476668598178" border="0" /></a><span style="font-size:100%;"><span style="font-family:georgia;">ionally notorious word among men, even though we crave it just as much as women. Nothing in the world compares to living with the person you love, to knowing that you’ll always have someone in your corner. Yet too many men express fear of commitment, and women have dealt with t</span></span><span style="font-size:100%;"><span style="font-family:georgia;">his frustration for generations. </span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">So how do you know if your boyfrie</span></span><span style="font-size:100%;"><span style="font-family:georgia;">nd has commitment issues? Here are eight of the most common red flags for commitment issues.</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;"><br /><br />1. He won’t stay over. Men who have commitment issues rarely will spend the night because that betrays commitment. Instead, he’ll slink out of bed after sex, get dressed, and go home to his own apartment or house. Likewise, he won’t ask you to stay over at his place.</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;"><br /><br />2. He wont talk about the relationship. Men who don’t fear commitment have no problem with discussing the direction and intensity of relationship. Conversely, men who have commitment issues will shy away from that discussion, no matter what the consequences.</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;"><br /><br />3. He is open about his interest in other women. Almost as if proud of their commitment issues, men who don’t want to commit will openly discuss women they find attractive. They might also leave women’s phone numbers where you’re likely to find them, or even casually mention having a date with another woman.</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;"><br /><br />4. He flinches at the word marriage. Men with commitment issues won’t discuss marriage, and might even break out into a cold sweat at its mention.</span><br /><br /></span><span style=";font-family:georgia;font-size:100%;" class="fullpost" >5. He won’t introduce you to his friends. Men sometimes feel that putting their friends with their girlfriends is akin to relationship suicide, but typically, men who won’t introduce you simply don’t feel that you’ll be around long enough for it to matter.</span><span style="font-size:100%;"> </span><span style=";font-family:georgia;font-size:100%;" class="fullpost" ><br /><br />6. He won’t meet your friends. Men who have commitment issues want to keep the relationship as private as possible. They fear getting too close, which can certainly mean commitment, so they’ll only want to get together when it’s just you and him.</span><span style="font-size:100%;"> </span><span style=";font-family:georgia;font-size:100%;" class="fullpost" ><br /><br />7. He wants to stay in a lot. Men who base relationships on sex, and sex alone, will want to stay in rather than go out. They don’t want to introduce you to friends, and they don’t really want to be seen together. This is a big red flag for commitment issues.</span><span style="font-size:100%;"> </span><span style=";font-family:georgia;font-size:100%;" class="fullpost" ><br /><br />8. He won’t talk about the future. Commitment issues keep a man from wanting to discuss the future: next month, next week, or even tomorrow night! They like to live by the moment and don’t want to count on the fact that you’ll be around tomorrow.</span><br /></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><!--Session data--><input onclick="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" type="hidden"><div id="refHTML"></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><!--Session data--><input onclick="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" type="hidden"><div id="refHTML"></div>Trizzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06057683308455025243noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1283628072469411447.post-60562223874301736842009-12-03T17:24:00.005+07:002009-12-03T17:55:23.662+07:00<span style="font-size:180%;"><span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;">The Best Ways To Understand A Man
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<br /><div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-weight: bold;font-family:georgia;" >10. ALL BLACK SHOES LOOK THE SAME TO HIM:</span>
<br /><span style="font-family:georgia;">Of course this may be somewhat of an exaggeration. But face it, Ladies... Men typically are not offered as many styles in the same color as women are. Therefore, that strappy black sling back, is exactly the same as the peep toe black sling back.</span>
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<br /><span style="font-weight: bold;font-family:georgia;" >9. "HOW WAS YOUR DAY?" doesn't mean "How was your day?”</span><span style="font-family:georgia;">:</span>
<br /><span style="font-family:georgia;">As insensitive as it sounds, when men ask this question, they typically do not want a play-by-play of your entire day. Quite frankly, it's boring. And unless you have something specific you want to discuss with him, he really doesn't care about your coworker's son's Little League Game.</span>
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<br /><span style="font-weight: bold;font-family:georgia;" >8. INITIATE SEX:</span>
<br /><span style="font-family:georgia;">Yes, sometimes men want women to be a bit more aggressive in the bedroom, especially if they tend to make the first move most of the time. Men do enjoy a chase. But after being together for a while, they need to feel wanted as well. Initiate sex a bit more often, and you could see dramatic improvements in your sex life.</span>
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<br /><span style="font-weight: bold;font-family:georgia;" >7. "NOTHING'S WRONG" means, nothing is wrong:</span>
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<br /><span style="font-family:georgia;">Sometimes that quiet, brooding type of man is simply having a quiet moment to himself. Women are the ones who ordinarily like to discuss and plan the details of almost everything. But men are more hands on. When they are quiet, it doesn't necessarily mean that something is wrong - only that they are thinking.</span>
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<br /><span style="font-weight: bold;font-family:georgia;" >6. "I LOVE YOU" isn't always said with words:</span>
<br /><span style="font-family:georgia;">Once women understand that men show love in a variety of ways, women will happier. Recognizing loving gestures will definitely help get the point across. Sometimes those three little words are being screamed loud and clear, with actions instead.</span>
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<br /><span style="font-weight: bold;font-family:georgia;" >5. HE DOESN'T REALLY WANT TO KNOW ALL ABOUT YOUR PAST:</span>
<br /><span style="font-family:georgia;">Sure, you've had honest dialogue about your previous racy adventures. But guess what? Men don't want to know everything you've done, and EVERYONE you've done it with. A little mystery helps keep some of the fire alive. And besides, there is nothing wrong with keeping some private things, private.
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<br /><span class="fullpost"><span style="font-weight: bold;font-family:georgia;" >4. DON'T BE A DOORMAT:</span></span>
<br /><span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;">Whoever coined the phrase that nice guys finish last, was actually onto something. While this doesn't mean that you should be rude or inconsiderate to your sweetie, it does mean that you should stand firm about things you believe in. Don't cave in to every whim for the sake of keeping your man around. In the end, it doesn't usually work anyway. Stand firm in your beliefs, and you'll maintain not only your integrity, but a healthy relationship.</span></span>
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<br /><span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;"></span> <span style="font-weight: bold;font-family:georgia;" >3. HAVE A LIFE!:</span></span>
<br /><span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;">Make sure that you've got something going on the side. No, not someone or something. Activities, friends, and hobbies are all important in keeping you sane. It's fine to do things together. But no one can stand to be around someone 24 hours a day without there being tension from time to time. The phrase "absence makes the heart grow fonder" has a huge ring of truth.</span></span>
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<br /><span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;"></span> <span style="font-weight: bold;font-family:georgia;" >2. DON'T LET YOURSELF GO :</span></span>
<br /><span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;">This doesn't mean bending your looks to satisfy the whims of your man. And it doesn't mean refusing to wear a particular style that he likes. Women should make sure that they feel as sexy as they did on the day they met their mates. A few pounds here and there may not make a difference to your beau. But if you've gained over 100 lbs, first ask yourself if You are happy with it. If not, then do something about it - For You. A happier You makes for a happier "us".</span></span>
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<br /><span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;"></span> <span style="font-weight: bold;font-family:georgia;" >1. COMPLIMENT HIM :</span></span>
<br /><span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;">Men like and need to feel attractive too. However, make sure that the compliments are genuine. If you like the way he looks in his favorite shirt, say so. Not only is it a boost to his confidence, but it lets him know that he's still attractive to you as well!</span></span>
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<br /><div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-weight: bold;font-family:georgia;" >The Happy Times Vs the Sad Times</span>
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<br /><span style="font-family:georgia;"><span style="font-size:180%;">If</span> you have t</span><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/SxYJZJMP3jI/AAAAAAAAANo/Ks1773oufN4/s1600-h/back-together-ex-healthy-way-200X200.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer; width: 300px; height: 264px;" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/SxYJZJMP3jI/AAAAAAAAANo/Ks1773oufN4/s320/back-together-ex-healthy-way-200X200.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5410522329900899890" border="0" /></a><span style="font-family:georgia;">o put thought into whether the happy times surpassed the sad times, the answer should be clea</span><span style="font-family:georgia;">r: Don't give him a second chance because he didn't make you happy. Giving him another chance will only cause you to revisit the past and encounter the same problems over again. If you ha</span><span style="font-family:georgia;">d major </span><span style="font-family:georgia;">problems then chan</span><span style="font-family:georgia;">ces are they aren't likely to dissolve into thin air.</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">All relationships have their ups and downs but emotional turmoil should not be an everyday occurrence.
<br />If he doesn't understand why you get upset at him all the time, then it might be the right time to find someone who c</span><span style="font-family:georgia;">an communicate on the same level as you and understand why you react the way you do.</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">However, if you've worked through problems successfully before and feel as though your relationship encompasses something special which is worth working out, give it another shot.</span> <span style="font-weight: bold;font-family:georgia;" >
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<br />The Opinions of Friends</span>
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<br /><span style="font-family:georgia;">Did your family and friends approve of your ex-boyfriend who is tr</span><span style="font-family:georgia;">y</span><span style="font-family:georgia;">i</span><span style="font-family:georgia;">n</span><span style="font-family:georgia;">g t</span><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/SxYM6qtnYXI/AAAAAAAAAN4/Nae2ReXrsRU/s1600-h/talks.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer; width: 349px; height: 229px;" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/SxYM6qtnYXI/AAAAAAAAAN4/Nae2ReXrsRU/s320/talks.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5410526204369789298" border="0" /></a><span style="font-family:georgia;">o make his way back into your life?</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">Your friends and family are the ones who know you best</span><span style="font-family:georgia;"> an</span><span style="font-family:georgia;">d </span><span style="font-family:georgia;">s</span><span style="font-family:georgia;">upport the fact that you should be treated in a way that keeps you happy. They are your personal support system and are always at your </span><span style="font-family:georgia;">side when you need a shoulder to cry on, and they provide you with advice when you are confused or distraught.</span>
<br /><span style="font-family:georgia;">If your friends and family don't approve of your </span><span style="font-family:georgia;">ex-boyfriend who is trying to weasel himself back </span><span style="font-family:georgia;">into your life then it m</span><span style="font-family:georgia;">ight be a sign. How can you allow a man who isn't respected by the closest people in your life to claim such an important status in your life? Does he really deserve it, or did he manipulate you in order to obtain such a place in your heart?</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">Clearly, figuring out whether or not he deserves a spot in your social circle should be thought through before you let him back into your life.<span class="fullpost">
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<br />The Reasons Behind the Break Up
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<br /></span></span> <span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;">Take some time to reflect on a moment in the past when he broke your heart. Do you remember yourself crying on a friend's shoulder or drinking the night away with friends in order to forget about the way he hurt you or made you cry? Are you prepared to repeat such a process if his scheming ways strike again?</span></span> <span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;">Heartbreak can be encountered in any relationship. However, giving a guy another chance once he has already broken your heart can be an extremely regrettable judgment call. An important question to ask yourself is why you would want to be with him if he doesn't want to be with you. Unless you are able to communicate what went wrong previously and how you can make things better, conflict will be an inevitable and unavoidable matter.</span></span>
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<br /><span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">Look at all Sides</span></span></span>
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<br /><span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;">Examining all these factors is important before determining whether or not he deserves a second chance. The answer might be quite clear even though you refuse to admit it to yourself. You might find yourself searching for reasons to let him crawl back into your life, but make sure you remember how you were treated previously and ask yourself if it is what you really want in a relationship.</span></span> <span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;">Figuring out whether or not there is a spot for him in your future is ultimately your own personal decision. </span></span>
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<br /><span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">Happiness matters most</span></span></span>
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<br /><span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;">Sometimes women fall back into relationships because they are used to a certain routine of being with a man, or simply don't want to feel lonely. But revisiting a painful past while realizing you could be exploring new options will just cause an elevated level of emotional anxiety.</span></span> <span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;">Feeling happy with yours
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<br /></span></span></span></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><!--Session data--><input onclick="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" type="hidden"><div id="refHTML"></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><!--Session data--><input onclick="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" type="hidden"><div id="refHTML"></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><!--Session data--><input onclick="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" type="hidden"><div id="refHTML"></div>Trizzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06057683308455025243noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1283628072469411447.post-4751122576275550502009-12-02T12:28:00.004+07:002009-12-02T12:37:46.101+07:00<span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;"><span style="font-size:180%;">Signs That He Is 'NOT' The One<br /><br /></span></span><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/SxX8R9RGH7I/AAAAAAAAANY/L8x3RksvJ7w/s1600-h/he%27s+not+the+one.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 400px; height: 309px;" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/SxX8R9RGH7I/AAAAAAAAANY/L8x3RksvJ7w/s400/he%27s+not+the+one.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5410507912789761970" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family:georgia;"><span style="font-size:180%;">A</span>fter enduring weeks of single girl sympathy, you finally agreed to let your cousin set you up with that "great guy" she knows. Since you said yes, you figure you might as well make the most of it and keep an open mind. But, just in case, you ask your best friend to call your cell about a half hour into the date so you can fake an emergency if needed. </span> <span style="font-family:georgia;"><br /><br />Actually, it's not even faking. Bad dates are emergencies. However, lucky for you, there are warning signs that the person you are out with is, and always will be, a terrible date. If you are unlucky enough to experience any of them first hand, make sure to answer your friend's call saying, "Oh no! That's terrible! I'll be right over." </span> <span style="font-weight: bold;font-family:georgia;" ><br /><br />He's Late </span> <span style="font-family:georgia;"><br /><br />This one is pretty basic. If a guy doesn't have enough enthusiasm for the date to actually show up on time, you shouldn't expect to be impressed by the rest of the night. Obviously, there are times when you just can't help it, but he'd better have a good reason if he shows up at your door even 15 minutes late. </span> <span style="font-weight: bold;font-family:georgia;" ><br /><br />He's Not Dressed to Impress </span> <span style="font-family:georgia;"><br /><br />You've spent hours on your hair and a pile of rejected clothes covers your bed. You are finally dressed to the nines in the perfect outfit and ready for the evening. You open the door and are surprised to be greeted by your date in torn jeans and a stained t-shirt. You doubt he's washed his hair today (or yesterday). You expected a nice night out and he shows up looking like he's dressed for a monster truck rally. </span> <span style="font-weight: bold;font-family:georgia;" ><br /><br />He Takes you to a Monster Truck Rally </span> <span style="font-family:georgia;"><br /><br />Original and unique first dates are a great way to stand out from the rest of the fish in the sea, but there are exceptions. He should at least do a little research into your style before he plans an unusual activity. Sure, he might really love hot dogs and monster trucks, but if you were thinking fine dining and theatre, there's bound to be trouble.</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;"><br />The fact that he didn't bother to ask your opinion beforehand (or at least get the matchmaker's thoughts on the plan) doesn't bode well for how he's going to respect your needs and wants in the future. </span> <br /><br /><span class="fullpost"><span style="font-weight: bold;font-family:georgia;" ><br /><br />He Expects You to Pay </span></span> <span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;"><br /><br />It's not absolutely necessary that he pick up the check. Along with all those useful freedoms like voting, the feminist movement also brought us the responsibility of at least offering to pay for half the date. Most guys still think it's chivalrous to pick up the tab for the first date and there's nothing wrong with indulging his male ego (after an appropriate amount of protesting of course). </span></span> <span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;"><br /><br />No girl is expecting a man to drop a fortune on a first date, but a guy who expects you to pay for everything without lifting a finger to open his own wallet doesn't give off the impression that he cares much what you think of him. In fact, he probably won't see a second date (and maybe not even the end of the first one). A good rule of thumb for payment is: whoever asks for the date, pays for the date. </span></span> <span class="fullpost"><span style="font-weight: bold;font-family:georgia;" ><br /><br />He Talks About his Ex </span></span> <span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;"><br /><br />So maybe you escaped the monster truck rally, but instead of choking on exhaust fumes and standing in a sea of drunken mullets, you get to hear all about his wonderful or horrible ex-girlfriend. Bonus trouble points if he had a nasty breakup and insists on sharing the details with you.</span></span> <span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;">If he refers to his ex even once with a derogatory insult that you wouldn't call your worst enemy, run for the hills now. It's not a good sign if he can't say anything nice about the last woman with whom he had a significant relationship. </span></span> <span class="fullpost"><span style="font-weight: bold;font-family:georgia;" ><br /><br />How Can I Put This.? He's a Weirdo. </span></span> <span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;"><br /><br />Yes, it's time to weed out those with personal quirks that you find distasteful or generally unacceptable. This will be different for every woman of course (some chicks really dig witchcraft, guys that live with their moms or Dungeons and Dragons enthusiasts). Regardless, that tight knot that is forming in your stomach while you listen to his ideas, habits and activities, should not be ignored. </span></span> <span class="fullpost"><span style="font-weight: bold;font-family:georgia;" ><br /><br />Awkward Moments vs. Awkward Hours<br /><br /></span></span><span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;">When he's not filling you in on his wacky life, the conversation stalls into silence or unintelligible grunting. It's normal to have a little awkwardness or difficulty getting conversation to flow in the beginning of a first date, but if after a few minutes, he still can't think of a single question to ask about your life or keep up with the conversation, it's time to call it a night.</span></span> <span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;"><br />If it's twenty minutes in and you've run out of things to talk about, you probably don't have much of a future together. </span></span> </div><span class="fullpost"><br /></span>Trizzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06057683308455025243noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1283628072469411447.post-30814950741892502752009-11-30T13:58:00.006+07:002009-12-02T12:38:57.341+07:00<span style="font-size:180%;"><span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;">How To Find Your Soulmate</span></span><br /><br /><div style="text-align: justify;font-family:georgia;"><span style="font-size:180%;">S</span>ome believe that your <a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/SxNvsAfDASI/AAAAAAAAAMg/tJJwo7Kuit4/s1600/couple-by-lake-lg-91823045.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer; width: 323px; height: 463px;" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/SxNvsAfDASI/AAAAAAAAAMg/tJJwo7Kuit4/s400/couple-by-lake-lg-91823045.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5409790379237245218" border="0" /></a>destiny will bring you to your soul mate like a magnet pulls metal. Your life will create a series of experiences that will lead you almost innocently to that vital part that will make your life complete. Unfortunately, there is no formula for finding your soul mate. We can only prepare ourselves to recognize that special person when we meet him or her. The preparation is really the key to how soon you can find that person.<br /><br />For this, one must prepare to give oneself away to others and develop a never ending steam of trust within yourself so that you can accept everyone you meet without judgments or fear. Some believe that if one looks deep inside the eyes of another person with complete acceptance and love, one can create new levels of intimacy and spiritual bonding. It is during this quest, where we treat every individual as a potential soul mate, that we will eventually find the one that we are looking for.<br /><br />Some people confuse this discovery as an endeavor to look for the ultimate romantic partner. Finding your soul mate is a search for wholeness or completion. It may lead to a physical union but it is much beyond mere physical desire. You can feel attracted to many others, but there could only be one person who will fit in perfectly to complete the puzzle of your life.<br /><br />If you can learn to love unconditionally, abandon yourself to your spiritual desires and accept wholeheartedly the people that God sends in our lives everyday, you will find your soul mate without any doubt.<br /><br /></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><!--Session data--><input onclick="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" type="hidden"><div id="refHTML"></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><!--Session data--><input onclick="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" type="hidden"><div id="refHTML"></div>Trizzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06057683308455025243noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1283628072469411447.post-84581599273756281672009-11-30T11:27:00.009+07:002009-12-02T12:39:36.624+07:00<span style="font-size:180%;"><span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;">The Beginning Of a New Relationship</span></span><br /><br /><span style=";font-family:georgia;font-size:130%;" ><br /></span><div style="text-align: justify;"><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/SxNY99ro1yI/AAAAAAAAAMY/quE_QXGM9p4/s1600/holding-hands1.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer; width: 431px; height: 395px;" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/SxNY99ro1yI/AAAAAAAAAMY/quE_QXGM9p4/s400/holding-hands1.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5409765398954956578" border="0" /></a><span style="font-size:180%;">Courting</span><br /><br /><span style=";font-family:georgia;font-size:180%;" >The</span><span style="font-family:georgia;"> "Courting Phase" doe</span><span style="font-family:georgia;">s not refer to the courtship process which precedes a relationship. The courtship process is when you attempt to charm someone into forming a relationship with you. The courting phase, however, is the very beginning of a new relationship itself; just after a successful courtship.</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">In the courting phase, both parties maintain that fascinating </span><span style="font-family:georgia;">charm which they used to attract their partner in the first place. The courting phase is where most broken promises & exaggerate words are said as you are still trying to impress each other. Things like 'I've never felt this way about anyone else before' or 'I think we have something special between us' are said. Although these statements are made with good intentions, they are often inaccurate and are based mainly on feeling as oppose to logic.</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">A couple in the courting phase also tend to be very "playful" with one another and prefer to spend every free moment together.</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">Although not every relationship passes through this courting phase, it happens often enough. Just make sure you are beyond this point before you start taking any serious steps in the relationship.<br /></span><br /><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><!--Session data--><input onclick="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" type="hidden"></div><div id="refHTML"></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><!--Session data--><input onclick="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" type="hidden"><div id="refHTML"></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><!--Session data--><input onclick="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" type="hidden"><div id="refHTML"></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><!--Session data--><input onclick="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" type="hidden"><div id="refHTML"></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><!--Session data--><input onclick="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" type="hidden"><div id="refHTML"></div>Trizzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06057683308455025243noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1283628072469411447.post-44700114985429126092009-11-28T16:56:00.004+07:002009-11-28T17:30:19.290+07:00<span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;"><span style="font-size:180%;">List Of Online Dating Tips<br /><br /></span></span><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/SxD6RBxW8zI/AAAAAAAAAL4/Zf5KFqBe7RU/s1600/dating+online.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 400px; height: 300px;" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/SxD6RBxW8zI/AAAAAAAAAL4/Zf5KFqBe7RU/s400/dating+online.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5409098322912146226" border="0" /></a><div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family:georgia;">There’s a nervousness, thrill, and excitement that occurs when meeting a person for the first time face to face. Yet amongst the thrill, remember to always be on your guard when going out on a date with someone you barely know. </span><br /><span style="font-family:georgia;">Here are 12 tips on dating safety to help you get started:</span><br /><br /><br /></div> <span style="font-family:georgia;">1. Arrange to </span><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/SxD648A_AXI/AAAAAAAAAMA/JDZ0lU23ZJw/s1600/free_online_dating_service_250x251.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer; width: 250px; height: 251px;" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/SxD648A_AXI/AAAAAAAAAMA/JDZ0lU23ZJw/s320/free_online_dating_service_250x251.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5409099008561840498" border="0" /></a><span style="font-family:georgia;">meet him. Don’t let him pick you up from your home.<br /></span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">2. Meet in public</span><span style="font-family:georgia;"> places. If possible, double date or go out with a group of people. </span> <span style="font-family:georgia;"><br />3. Go Dutch by paying half of the bill. That way you won’t feel under any obligation to return the favor.</span><br /><span style="font-family:georgia;">4. Remember that alcohol affects your judgment and lessens your inhibitions. If you are drinking, keep your drink in sight at all times and don’t get so drunk that you don’t know what you are doing.</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;"><br />5. Use your own mode of transportation. And leave with a full tank. </span> <span style="font-family:georgia;"><br />6. Don't assume that a man is safe just because he claims to be religious.</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;"><br />7. Don’t let him kn</span><span style="font-family:georgia;">ow where you live. If you want to see him again, arrange a second date and then take it from there.<br /><br /></span> <span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;"><br />8. Avoid secluded areas such as parks. </span></span> <span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;"><br />9. Listen to your gut. If something doesn't feel right, it probably isn't. And if you haven’t met him before, and you know at the beginning of the date that something doesn’t feel right, then leave immediately.</span></span> <span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;"><br />10. Always let someone else know where you're going and who you'll be with. You might even consider arranging a time to call and check in. Or you could arrange to meet up with friends later that night.</span></span> <span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;"><br />11. Give him your cell phone number instead of your home phone number.</span></span> <span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;">12. Always remain alert. Even if you’re having a blast and the chemistry is great, it’s a good idea to remain alert the whole evening. Make sure you have a cell phone on you.</span></span> <span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;">Dating safely is very important. In the initial stages of dating, you are still getting to know someone you know little about. By creating a safe environment to know the person, you’re creating a better situation for you.<br /></span></span><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><!--Session data--><input onclick="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" type="hidden"><div id="refHTML"></div>Trizzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06057683308455025243noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1283628072469411447.post-45247942594221750552009-11-27T14:35:00.004+07:002009-11-27T14:40:56.986+07:00<span style="font-size:180%;"><span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;">Marriage Can Cure Depression</span></span><br /><br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/Sw-Bu3NgfeI/AAAAAAAAALw/WOfzCoUUIsg/s1600/033.+Custom+Wedding+Ring+Set.JPG"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 400px; height: 386px;" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/Sw-Bu3NgfeI/AAAAAAAAALw/WOfzCoUUIsg/s400/033.+Custom+Wedding+Ring+Set.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5408684319589826018" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family:georgia;"><span style="font-size:130%;">With </span>apologies to about thousands of stand up comedians, marriage may be the cure for depression, rather than the cause of it.</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">In fact, researchers say, people who experience depression before they get married are the most likely to get emotional health benefits from marriage.</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">Using a depression scale whose scores ranged from zero to 84, the researchers found that the scores of depressed people went down by almost 8 points after marriage, while those who weren't depressed had just under a 2-point drop after marriage.</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">Even the study authors were surprised by their findings. "We thought people who were depressed would be less likely to benefit from marriage than others," said study co-author Kristi Williams, an assistant professor of sociology at Ohio State University in Columbus. "We thought depression would put a strain on the marriage."</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">Williams and her co-author, Adrianne Frech, a doctoral student at Ohio State, presented the results of their study August. 13 at the annual meeting of the American Sociological Association, in Montreal.</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">This research comes on the heels of another study that found that people who never marry had a greater chance of dying early than people who were married. In fact, people who'd never married had an even higher risk of early death than people who were divorced, separated or widowed, suggesting that marriage confers some sort of health benefit, even if it doesn't work out.</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">Using data from the National Survey of Families and Households, the Ohio State researchers gathered information on more than 3,000 people who were single at the start of the study in 1987-88. The survey participants were interviewed again sometime between 1992 and 1994.</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">To assess whether or not people were depressed, they were asked 12 questions, such as how many days in the past week they "felt like they could not shake off the blues, "felt lonely," or "slept restlessly."<br /><br /></span> <span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;"><br /><br />About 29 percent were depressed at the start of the study, according to Williams.</span></span> <span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;">During the second part of the study, they gathered information on who had gotten married and reassessed depression.</span></span> <span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;">Williams said at that time, 30 percent of those who remained unmarried were depressed, while only 26 percent of those who got married were depressed.</span></span> <span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;">The researchers found that those who were depressed seemed to gain the most mental health benefits from getting married, with depressed people enjoying nearly a six-point higher reduction in their depression scores after marriage than non-depressed people.</span></span> <span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;">"We actually found the opposite of what we expected. We thought depressed people would be less likely to benefit from marriage because the depression of one spouse can put a strain on the marriage and undermine marital quality," Frech said in a prepared statement.</span></span> <span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;">As to why depressed people may enjoy more benefits from matrimony, Williams theorized, "We think that depressed people may have more to gain from the emotional support and close intimate ties that come with marriage."</span></span> <span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;">That doesn't mean people who aren't depressed won't have happy marriages, Williams quickly added: "If you start out happy, you don't have as far to go."</span></span> <span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;"><br />The findings don't mean that depressed people should substitute marriage for depression treatment either, she said.</span></span> <span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;">"This was just an average association," said Williams. "We're not saying that depressed individuals should run out and get married."</span></span> <span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;">"Clearly, one should not look upon these results as recommending that depressed people should get married," said Dr. Charles Goodstein, a clinical professor of psychiatry at the New York University School of Medicine in New York City. "The likelihood is strong that such a marriage might fall apart."</span></span> <span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;">But, he added, these study results suggest that depressed people stand to gain more from marriage. "At the very least, the depressed person gets the sense that there's someone who cares about them."</span></span> <span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;">However, Goodstein also pointed out that this particular survey may not accurately assess depression.</span></span> <span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;">"Depression is a much more complicated matter than can be diagnosed on a survey. There is such a wide range of what we call depression, and many people can pass through society without being seen as depressed," he said.</span></span> <span class="fullpost"><span style="font-family:georgia;">Williams agreed that the survey used in this study can't be used to diagnose individual depression, but said it was designed to give an estimate of depression in a community population.</span></span> </div><span class="fullpost"><br /></span><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><!--Session data--><input onclick="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" type="hidden"><div id="refHTML"></div>Trizzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06057683308455025243noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1283628072469411447.post-47378269933212679442009-11-25T11:45:00.006+07:002009-11-27T13:29:50.806+07:00<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/Sw6NOTdUroI/AAAAAAAAALY/T6_zLtC3ZWU/s1600/gni-valentines-party-mr-article-l.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 365px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 346px; CURSOR: pointer" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5408415479399493250" border="0" alt="" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/Sw6NOTdUroI/AAAAAAAAALY/T6_zLtC3ZWU/s400/gni-valentines-party-mr-article-l.jpg" /></a><br /><span style="font-size:180%;"><span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;">10 Reasons Why Being Single Is Great</span></span><br /><br /><br /><div style="TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><span style="font-family:georgia;"><span style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold">Reason #1: You have a better body.</span><br />We have all been there you get into a relationship, and suddenly you’re trying out new recipes all the time and cuddling instead of exercising. Well, things tend to get worse with marriage. A recent Cornell University study found that women generally gain five to eight pounds in the first few years of marriage and unhappily married women gain an average of 54 pounds in the first 10 years. For the unmarried, though, the motivation to stay slim remains: "Singles look at themselves through the </span><span style="font-family:georgia;">eyes of others and want to be attractive to potential partners," says Susan Davis, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist in New York City, "so they’re still ‘working on themselves." In short, being single is way better than any New Year’s resolution or exercise DVD to motivate you to stay in shape. </span><span style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold"><br /><br /><span style="font-family:georgia;">Reason #2: You’re more likely to achieve great things.</span></span><span style="font-family:georgia;"><br />It’s amazing what you can accomplish when you have the time, the quiet and the lack of familial responsibilities. In fact, your premarital motivation to excel in life may be biologically programmed. According to a study conducted at the London School of Economics and Political Scientists, male scientists who stay single longer peak in their careers later in life and tend to be more productive than their married counterparts. Researchers theorize that men, in general, may show off their talents to win the interest of women and then, once they’ve won a wife, get comfortable and do less. In fact, studies have shown that testosterone levels, which boost action, decrease after a man gets married and has children. So single folk should know they are primed to achieve whether that means turbo-charging their careers or honing their rock-climbing skills and get out there and work it!<br /><br /><span style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold">Reason #3: You do less housework.</span><br />You know that saying about a tree falling in a forest and there’s no one there to hear it? Well, if you leave a sock on the floor but there’s no one else there to see it, does it really need to be picked up? If you’re a single woman, you can contemplate deep questions like this one because you have more free time. According to one study published in the Journal of Marriage and Family, women do less housework when single than when married. Men, on the other hand, do more housework when unmarried (that’s probably because there’s someone picking up after them once they’re wed…). So the message here is for unmarried women to enjoy their less chore-filled life; fill those free hours with classes, good books, blabbing with friends whatever makes you happy.<br /><br /><span style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold"></span></span><span style="font-family:georgia;"><span class="fullpost"><span style="font-size:85%;"><span style="font-size:100%;"><span style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold">Reason #4: You can do what you want with your money including keep it.</span><br />Go ahead: Splurge on that pricey moisturizer or that obscenely large plasma TV you’ve been lusting after. You don’t have to justify your purchase to anyone but yourself. Once you mix money with marriage, though, things change and fast. According to a survey by Smart Money magazine, 40 percent of women and 36 percent of men have lied to their spouses about a purchase. “When you’re single, your finances are your own,” explains Phyllis Chase, a Los Angeles based psychologist and co-host of the radio show Shrink Rap. “When you’re married, you have to deal with different styles of spending and saving, and you may take on your partner’s debt.” And a marriage that doesn’t make it for the long haul can also have a major negative effect on one’s wealth. According to researchers at Ohio State University’s Center for Human Resource Research, during a divorce, men and women generally lose three-fourths of their personal net worth. Double ouch.<br /><br /><span style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold">Reason #5: You have better sex.</span><br />Married couples may have more sex (approximately 98 times a year vs. singles’ 49), but singles have better sex. According to a recent study published in the British Medical Journal, married women are significantly more likely to report problems with their sex lives than single women. “People who are dating have better sex because it’s novel,” says Davis. “Married people have to relearn how to play. It’s natural for singles because that’s the nature of a courting relationship they tease, they experiment, they explore.” Nature lends a helping hand, too. According to researchers at the University of Pisa in Italy, raging testosterone levels in both men and women makes the sex hotter during the first two years of a relationship. After that, other hormones take over most notably, oxytocin, a bonding chemical, kicks in. While getting connected and comfortable is a positive step in a relationship, long-term lovers have to work harder to keep things hot in the bedroom. Singles, however, sizzle just the way they are.<br /><br /><span style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold">Reason #6: You’re better rested and smarter.</span><br />While snuggling up next to a warm body can be pretty fantastic, according to a survey conducted by the National Sleep Foundation, your bed mate can cause you to lose an average of 49 minutes of sleep per night. Sleeping two to a bed just isn’t as restful as snoozing solo. Other studies confirm that singles generally get more rest seven to eight hours of sleep a night than married couples, which enhances memory, mood and concentration, as well as allows your immune system to recharge. And, according to scientists at the University of Luebeck in Germany, creativity and problem-solving may directly correlate with getting enough sleep. In the study, participants were given a math puzzle; those who’d had eight hours of sleep or more before tackling it were three times more likely to get the right answer than those who slept less. So, singles, revel in the fact that you’re alert, rested and have that extra brain power edge.<br /><br /><span style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold">Reason #7: You’re less depressed.</span><br />Although the media often perpetuates the image of single people being down in the dumps, overall unmarried people tend to be happier than their married counterparts if you’re a woman, that is. One report by the World Health Organization indicated that married women, especially ones with children, have a higher risk for depression than single women, and researchers at the University of London found that single women generally have fewer mental-health issues. “Marriage, in many ways, seems to benefit men more than women,” says Davis. “For women, there’s more of a loss of self.” And, of course, today’s women often feel like they need to do it all have a career, take care of the kids and perform other traditionally “female” responsibilities. “People who aren’t married are still investing in themselves,” says Davis. “It’s not selfish it’s giving to yourself, and that’s something married people can learn from single people.”<br /><br /><span style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold">Reason #8: You have better friendships.</span><br />Significant others are a wonderful thing, no doubt, but friends count, too. And on that front, one study found that, when women get married and have children, they spend much less time with their friends less than five hours a week, down from 14 hours. Singles, however, often have the greatest sense of friendship and community which can actually decrease stress levels, according to researchers at UCLA. Here's another way to look at this: “Singles don’t rely on just one person to meet their needs. You don’t automatically know who you’re going to spend Friday night with,” says Sasha Cagen, author of Quirky alone: A Manifesto for Uncompromising Romantics. “The plus side is that you have a lot of different people in your life and potentially a greater sense of social possibilities.”<br /><br /><br /><span style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold">Reason #9: Your travel tales are enviable.</span><br />Married couples take the most vacations, dominating the market with 62 percent of all trips taken, but singles arguably go on more interesting trips. According to the Travel Industry Association of America, singles corner the adventure-travel market, engaging in activities like white water rafting, scuba diving and mountain biking. Being single and relatively footloose certainly allows you to expand your geographical and personal borders. “I have lived abroad, backpacked for close to a year, have been in love three times and much more,” says Courtney Davis, 27, a media-relations manager in Boston. “With every place and every person, my world has expanded.”<br /><br /><span style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold">Reason #10: You know yourself and what you want out of a relationship.</span><br />You are a better catch now than you were at 20. You may have signs of, ahem, experience etched on your face, but that’s OK because you’re more interesting and more self-aware. Not only have you grown as a person, but you’ve probably been through the ringer a few times in matters of love and now know what you want and what you don’t. Experts say that bodes well for future marital success and may actually decrease the likelihood of divorce. “When people get married young, they often feel like the other person will complete them, and they have trouble moving past that Hollywood myth,” explains Chase. “But maturity brings so much, because if you’re able to communicate who you are and what you want, the better your chances of having a successful marriage.” And that’s a wonderful message: Your single self is great... and should you find the right person and decide to marry, you’re more likely to thrive in that stage of your life, too.</span> </span></span><br /></span></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><input id="jsProxy" onclick="jsCall();" type="hidden"> <div id="refHTML"></div>Trizzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06057683308455025243noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1283628072469411447.post-37931596636889758542009-11-23T13:42:00.009+07:002009-12-03T18:05:40.686+07:00<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/Sw6QY6G2u9I/AAAAAAAAALg/20VXF0Lr0yU/s1600/141_dating_advice.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; width: 508px; display: block; height: 241px; cursor: pointer;" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5408418960107813842" alt="" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/Sw6QY6G2u9I/AAAAAAAAALg/20VXF0Lr0yU/s400/141_dating_advice.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><span style="font-size:85%;"><span style="font-size:180%;"><span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;">How To Date Your Friend<br /></span></span></span><span style="font-size:85%;"><br /><br /><span style="font-family: georgia;font-family:georgia;font-size:100%;" ><span style="font-size:130%;">Friendship to Lovers</span><br /><br /></span></span><div style="text-align: justify; font-family: georgia;"><span style="font-size:100%;"><span style="font-size:180%;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">I </span></span>do not know about the average heterosexual male, but most of my relationships have been products of friendship. You get close to a woman, spend time with her, and eventually things just develop into more. But how do two people make the transition from friends to dating?<br />First of all, but people should be on the same page. Friends can become more over time, but if one person is pushing it while the other is unsure, you can ruin both the friendship and the potential relationship. Talking about it should be foremost on your minds, and voicing concerns should be met with careful thought.<br />Often, when two people transition from friends to dating, they aren’t sure exactly how to act around one another. Once a friendship has been established, with rules attached, breaking those rules can be stressful at first. Even holding hands in public and kissing one another goodbye might seem difficult, if not downright strange.<br /><br />Usually, however, the discomfort is felt from both sides, which means that the same concerns are often shared. Unless you communicate those concerns, however, they are likely to fester and become too large to handle. Your best bet is to admit that you are feeling uncomfortable with the transition from friends to dating, and try to work through it together.<br /></span></div><span style="font-family: georgia;font-size:100%;" class="fullpost" ><br /></span><div style="text-align: justify; font-family: georgia;font-family:trebuchet ms;"><span class="fullpost" style="font-size:100%;">The extent of the discomfort will likely depend upon how long the two of you have been friends. If you’ve known each other for ten years, for example, your habits and traditions will have been well-established, and as such, harder to change. However, if you’ve only been friends for a few months, the transition from friends to dating will be easier.</span><span style="font-size:100%;"> </span><span class="fullpost" style="font-size:100%;"><br />Another problem is that friends who become more do not have the luxury of slowly getting to know one another. Friends who start dating are really starting well into the relationship; they already know one another, which might cause them to move too fast.<br /><br />There’s a lot of pressure on a couple who have known one another for years, but have just begun to develop romantic feelings. The temptation to jump directly into a serious relationship is strong.</span><span style="font-size:100%;"> </span><span class="fullpost" style="font-size:100%;">My best advice is to behave however feels natural. If you need some time to adjust to the idea, cool things off and simply spend time with one another. Don’t push sex until the both of you are ready, because once you’ve taken that step, you can never take it back. Sex has been known to ruin friendships, and can very easily end yours.</span><span style="font-size:100%;"> </span><span class="fullpost" style="font-size:100%;"><br /><br />Although you do run the risk of jeopardizing your friendship by taking it to the next level, it will only ruin your friendship if you allow it. People who sincerely like one another and enjoy each other’s company will find a way to make it work, whether or not the relationship lasts. Make a sincere and concentrated effort to remain friends, even while you are dating.</span><span style="font-size:100%;"> </span><span class="fullpost" style="font-size:100%;">And finally, all successful relationships are based on friendship. Unless you can talk, laugh and commiserate with your partner, the relationship is not as good or as healthy as it could be. Even if you start to date someone right away, you should learn to become friends as well as lovers.</span><span style="font-size:100%;"><br /><br /><br /></span></div><span class="fullpost"><br /></span><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><input id="jsProxy" onclick="jsCall();" type="hidden"> <div id="refHTML"></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><input id="jsProxy" onclick="jsCall();" type="hidden"> <div id="refHTML"></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><input id="jsProxy" onclick="jsCall();" type="hidden"> <div id="refHTML"></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><input id="jsProxy" onclick="jsCall();" type="hidden"> <div id="refHTML"></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><input id="jsProxy" onclick="jsCall();" type="hidden"> <div id="refHTML"></div>Trizzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06057683308455025243noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1283628072469411447.post-53789520915912919352009-11-20T18:59:00.006+07:002009-12-03T18:07:19.594+07:00<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/SwaKGFDKrUI/AAAAAAAAAKw/J9FMKpkW3B4/s1600/love-sick.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; width: 255px; float: left; height: 320px; cursor: pointer;" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5406160239744167234" alt="" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/SwaKGFDKrUI/AAAAAAAAAKw/J9FMKpkW3B4/s320/love-sick.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><span style=";font-family:trebuchet ms;font-size:180%;" >Love Sick On a New Romance</span><br /><br /><div style="text-align: justify; font-family: georgia;"><span style="font-size:100%;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">It</span> doesn't get more unstable than this. You feel sick, you can't eat, you don't know what you are thinking and feeling, but you are thinking excessively. You feel happy, you feel sad, you feel unsettled, you worry, you are ecstatic. You want to panic and wish you had said no. What's happening to you? You are in your first four weeks of dating someone.<br />The first thing that can happen with a date is that you feel trepidation before the event. You may have had lots of dates and expect little but are pleasantly surprised. You may have been building up to the date and its gone really well and you are surprised, pleasantly. You may actually feel unhappy and irritated that a first date went well because now you have to give some thought to the situation. Initially then you need to decide if you are going to take it further or whether last night's promises and optimism has changed in the cold light of day. For almost everyone, however good or bad you will feel some trepidation, even if you are walking on the moon. For many, the days after a first date that went really well will make you feel great. You feel desired, attractive and you realize that someone really likes you who you are attracted to. But - until you have secured a second date you will still feel like you have got it all wrong and that you are mistaken. When that second date is finalized you will again feel great and this is a real test because this time you will be analyzing each other more thoroughly and testing each other in verbal interplay and emotional content in your conversation.<br /><br />Your reliability and your wit will be tested as well as many other extremely subtle facets of your character. At this stage you most certainly should not have had sex! </span><span class="fullpost" style="font-size:100%;">After the second date is where panic can set in. If you really like this person you will panic and worry that you can lose them before anything has even got going. On the other hand you may like them and panic that it could all be too much too soon and wish to run without finding out. So this is where disaster can begin to intervene on a perfect future.<br /><br />You can quickly come across as overbearing and possessive, even though you haven't got into a relationship yet. So stop calling and stop pondering and ensure you carry on as best u can with a routine. In other words, back off and be cool. Take your time and stop panicking. If you are going to go out, then you will but don't rush it.</span><span style="font-size:100%;"><br /></span><span class="fullpost" style="font-size:100%;">If, on the other hand, you are simply not sure about looming intimacy then again take your time and be cool.<br /><br />The pleasure in the first few weeks of dating is in its turmoil and its passion but also in savoring every moment. In a long term relationship these are days hard to repeat so take in the atmosphere of knowing someone new and enjoy the encounters as they happen. A new relationship doesn't have to lead to marriage and commitment so stop thinking too much and simply enjoy your dates as they happen.</span><span style="font-size:100%;"> </span><span class="fullpost" style="font-size:100%;">There will be many dilemmas in the first few weeks such as your first kiss, where you should go on dates, whether you should phone, what happens if they didn't call when expected, concern things are over already.<br /><br />The you will move on to whether you should invite them in for coffee, what happens if you want to go to bed with them or what happens as your emotions increase. Once again it is about trying to keep the basics in perspective. Your entire day-to-day life can be affected by beginning to like someone and fall in love so the only thing that gives you any structure is your regular daily pattern. Because of this it is crucial to keep as many things regular as possible. Try and sustain your daily regime, including clubs, hobbies and trips to the gym. However one of the beautiful aspects of this initial period is the breaking of that regime to find small intense emotional moments with your new friend.</span> <span class="fullpost" style="font-size:100%;">People often ask me when a date becomes a relationship and I have answered that more fully in a different article but to my own mind the first 4 weeks are crucial in creating a basic foundation on which you can both develop into a relationships. You will have progressed from first date to hopefully. If you live close by you may have stopped counting by now. I can understand that circumstances may prevent regular dating for some, but I do think that if you are wanting a serious relationship to develop, proximity is helpful. In 4 weeks of dating you should have been dating plenty of times and be getting to know the beginnings of each other. </span><span style="font-size:100%;"><br /><br /></span><span class="fullpost" style="font-size:100%;">Where dating is very very slow then there is a danger it will never actually fire the main engines for lift off so I actively encourage people to make the most of the dating opportunities presented. You see, when you really like someone, you want to be with them, you want to spend all your time with them to get to know them and understand them and learn to fall in love with them. For this to happen you have to meet very regularly to build up that level of intimacy otherwise you may be wasting your time.</span><span style="font-size:100%;"><br /><br /></span><span class="fullpost" style="font-size:100%;">The first 4 weeks are critical as they are the testing time. If you get through this initial period you have a chance of building into a relationship. In my view it is too soon for sex if you are serious but too long for just a couple of meetings. It is the perfect time frame to know whether you are fairly compatible above and beyond the initial physical attraction. A month of dating is a month of happy events and phone calls and memories. If in that period things aren't working out, then you can walk away with no harm done.</span><span style="font-size:100%;"> </span><span class="fullpost" style="font-size:100%;">You may feel sick and you may feel unsteady, but when we all look back and try and describe what being in love is like, most of us tend to remember the first four weeks when we met and use those feelings to </span></div><span class="fullpost"><br /></span><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><input id="jsProxy" onclick="jsCall();" type="hidden"> <div id="refHTML"></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><!--Session data--><input onclick="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" type="hidden"><div id="refHTML"></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><!--Session data--><input onclick="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" type="hidden"><div id="refHTML"></div>Trizzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06057683308455025243noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1283628072469411447.post-72057546628399865622009-11-20T13:30:00.015+07:002009-12-03T18:08:18.113+07:00<span style="font-size:180%;"><span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;">How To Rekindle A Long Term Relat</span></span><span style="font-size:180%;"><span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;">ionship<br /><br /></span></span><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/Swtbr8-fwdI/AAAAAAAAALI/1d0eTo3X9dk/s1600/Big+Love+Pet+Name.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; width: 302px; display: block; height: 400px; cursor: pointer;" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5407516588249170386" alt="" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/Swtbr8-fwdI/AAAAAAAAALI/1d0eTo3X9dk/s400/Big+Love+Pet+Name.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><span style="font-family: georgia;font-family:georgia;font-size:100%;" >A happy, long term relationship is great and something we all want. However, even the best and happiest long term relationships can suffer from routine sex.<br /></span><div style="text-align: justify; font-family: georgia;"><span style="font-size:100%;"><br /></span><span style=";font-size:100%;" >The sex might be good, but it is not what it used to be nor is it everything that it could be. While you might be content, what you really want is a way to spice things up and turn your good sex life into a fantastic sex life – and keep it that way.<br /><br /><span style="font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">Be Spontaneous </span><br /><br />If you want it, do it. I don’t mean drop whatever you are doing and have sex wherever you happen to be when the urge strikes you – that might be inadvisable, particularly if you happen to be in public, or surrounded by children.<br /><br />Instead, let sex sometimes take priority over other trivial things that you normally would want to get done first. If you can afford the time, be ten minutes late to work because you were having a morning quicky. If you are cleaning up, watching television, or paying bills stop what you are doing, put it out of your mind and give into your desires.<br /><br />If it can wait – and most often it really can – then let it wait.<br /><br /><span style="font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">Try Something New </span><br /><br />This applies to what you do in the bedroom as much as to time spent out of it. Outside of the bedroom try doing something that both of you have never done before. Go sky diving, rock climbing, try new food, take dance lessons, travel. Spending exciting quality time together serves to cement your bond and makes physical intimacy that much more fulfilling.<br /><br />In the bedroom, spend some time talking candidly about your fantasies, old and new. Try your best not to judge each other so that you can both be as open as possible. At the same time don’t be afraid to say that you are uncomfortable with something, but express this in a non-judgmental way in terms of personal preference rather than a put down.<br /><br />Don’t say: “Ewww what kind of weirdo would want that? I can’t believe I’ve been dating you for (fill in the blank)!” Try to say: “Interesting, but just not my thing.”<br /><br />Once you have found something new you both want to try, explore it fully and enjoy!<br /><br /><span class="fullpost"><span style="font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">Dress Up </span></span></span><span class="fullpost" style="font-size:100%;"><br /><br />Once you’ve found someone it’s easy to slack off in terms of your physical appearance. While it’s healthy to be able to be around someone with bad hair in crummy clothes, it’s equally important to take some time every now and again to try. </span><span style=";font-size:100%;" ><span class="fullpost">You might want to wear something sexy to bed, work on toning your body, or get dressed up for a night out on the town.<br /><br /></span><span class="fullpost"><span style="font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">Compliment Each Other</span></span> </span><span class="fullpost" style="font-size:100%;"><br /><br />Pretty much everyone likes to be told they are good-looking. Some are more modest than others but you would be hard pressed to find someone who truly dislikes being told that they are attractive. </span><span style=";font-size:100%;" ><span class="fullpost">Compliments help build self-esteem and a more confident lover will be more likely to try new and exciting things or throw themselves into what they are doing. </span><span class="fullpost">Also, giving compliments helps both partners feel appreciated, needed and loved. Often, once you have been with someone for a while it is easy to forget to compliment them as often as you used to, the rationale being something along the lines of: “well I told them before and they know it”. </span></span><span class="fullpost" style=";font-size:100%;" >It’s always pleasant to be reminded and to be reassured of the fact that your lover feels as attracted to you now as they did on day one.<br /><br /></span><span style=";font-size:100%;" ><span class="fullpost"><span style="font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">Teasing & Foreplay<br /><br /></span></span><span class="fullpost">Don’t always get right to it. Sometimes, getting what you want right away can be tremendously satisfying. However, if you are always instantly satisfied, you might begin to take sex and your partner for granted. You will begin to feel entitled and sex will become just something you expect. </span></span><span class="fullpost" style=";font-size:100%;" >In order to prevent this from happening, or remedy it once it has, build up to the moment. Tease each other throughout the day. Express desire without immediately fulfilling it. Once you have each other alone, cuddle, kiss and make out for as long as you can before actually getting down to business.<br /><br /></span><span style=";font-size:100%;" ><span class="fullpost"><span style="font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">Forget About the Bed<br /><br /></span></span><span class="fullpost">This pretty much means have sex anywhere but on your bed. Try the floor, a chair, the kitchen table, the shower, or if you are feeling particularly risqué, do it outside. </span><span class="fullpost">I’ve heard some pretty bizarre locations mentioned, among them: the mall after hours, a tree in a field, on a building, a forest and a golf course at night. It’s not necessary to go quite so extreme; the main point is to explore intimacy in a location that you would not normally.</span> <span class="fullpost"></span></span></div><span style="font-size:85%;"><span class="fullpost"><br /></span></span><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><input id="jsProxy" onclick="jsCall();" type="hidden"> <div id="refHTML"></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><input id="jsProxy" onclick="jsCall();" type="hidden"> <div id="refHTML"></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><!--Session data--><input onclick="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" type="hidden"><div id="refHTML"></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><!--Session data--><input onclick="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" type="hidden"><div id="refHTML"></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><!--Session data--><input onclick="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" type="hidden"><div id="refHTML"></div>Trizzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06057683308455025243noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1283628072469411447.post-79198500630311123692009-11-16T11:11:00.003+07:002009-12-03T18:09:08.243+07:00<span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;">Love & Lust The Different</span><span style="font-weight: bold;"><br /></span><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/SwDz1oVTc_I/AAAAAAAAAKE/Zq2edcFcctM/s1600/kissing+cuole.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; width: 240px; display: block; height: 320px; cursor: pointer;" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5404587655529985010" alt="" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/SwDz1oVTc_I/AAAAAAAAAKE/Zq2edcFcctM/s320/kissing+cuole.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><span style="font-family: georgia;font-family:georgia;font-size:100%;" ><strong>Lust</strong> is always mistaken as love. Lust is passion. Lust is desire. Lust is therefore not love. It can be difficult for the inexperienced to distinguish between the two emotions. Especially, in the beginning of a relationship when sexual feelings are stronger.<br /><br /></span><span style="font-family: georgia;font-family:georgia;font-size:100%;" ><span style="font-weight: bold;">Love</span><br />Love is the emotional attachment in a relationship. Love is the sincere feeling of affection and devotion that you have for your partner. It is a deep, profound, and pure emotion that does not sway easily. Love is an emotion that can take years to build up and can only be felt for someone you hold dear.<br /><br /></span><span class="fullpost"><span style="font-size:100%;"><br /><br /></span><span style="font-family: georgia;font-family:trebuchet ms;font-size:100%;" ><span style="font-weight: bold;">Lust </span><br />And then there is lust. Lust can be felt towards anybody with a sufficient amount of sexual appeal. Lust is so sensual in it's raw nature of being and can be formed instantly. It is a strong, excessive craving for sexual intimacy that can be difficult to control.<br />It is probably lust if sex is the main basis of your relationship. Can't keep your hands off each other? Is sex the only thing that you look forward to with this person? It is probably lust. A relationship founded on lust will only last as long as the two people involved are sexually attracted to one another; this can wear off fast.<br /><br /><br /></span><br /></span><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><input id="jsProxy" onclick="jsCall();" type="hidden"> <div id="refHTML"></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><!--Session data--><input onclick="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" type="hidden"><div id="refHTML"></div>Trizzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06057683308455025243noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1283628072469411447.post-50363211838614289432009-11-16T09:36:00.010+07:002009-12-03T18:09:54.272+07:00<span style=";font-family:trebuchet ms;font-size:180%;" >The Realities of Love at First Si</span><span style=";font-family:trebuchet ms;font-size:180%;" >ght</span> <h2 style="font-weight: normal; font-family: georgia;font-family:trebuchet ms;"><span style=";font-size:130%;" >How fast can you really size up a partner?</span></h2><h1 style="font-family: trebuchet ms; font-weight: normal;"><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/SwC7wXLGSdI/AAAAAAAAAJ8/lcOokIaAW-g/s1600/love%40first+sight.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; width: 320px; display: block; height: 320px; cursor: pointer;" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5404525992373275090" alt="" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/SwC7wXLGSdI/AAAAAAAAAJ8/lcOokIaAW-g/s320/love%40first+sight.jpg" border="0" /></a></h1><br /><span style="font-family: georgia;font-family:georgia;font-size:100%;" ><span style="font-weight: bold;">By Helen Fisher, PhD</span><br /><br /></span><p style="text-align: justify; font-family: georgia;font-family:trebuchet ms;" class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:100%;">You walk into a party and head for the bar. Suddenly someone is beside you, offering to get you a drink. You begin to talk. Almost immediately you're struck by the eerie feeling that you may have just found Mr. Right. But that's crazy, isn't it? Or is it? Can a person really know something this life-changing so fast?<br /><br />Yes. We are built to instantly size up a potential partner, an intuitive skill that likely developed millions of years ago as our forebears struggled to rapidly sort friends from enemies. And while today we may not need to protect ourselves with a strong, virile mate, we regularly make up our minds about whether an individual could be an appropriate match within the first three minutes of talking to him (or her).<br /><span class="fullpost"><br />Indeed, it takes less than one second to decide whether you find someone physically attractive. Too short, too tall, too old, too young, too scruffy, or too scrubbed—he's out. If, however, he fits your general concept of Adonis, your mind races toward the next checkpoint: voice. Once again, you respond in seconds. Women typically regard rapid talkers as more educated and men with full, deep voices as better-looking than they are. Next: his words. We like people who use the same kinds of words we use. We are also drawn to those who have a similar degree of intelligence, share our religious and social values, and come from the same economic background—and we quickly determine these attributes from a man's words (not to mention how he dresses and wears his hair, whether he's carrying a briefcase or a soccer ball, and if he's sporting a gold watch or a tattoo).<br /><br />But can this handsome, deep-voiced, well-dressed stranger give you what you need? Even on the bigger questions, we often form an opinion within the first three minutes if the conversation turns to, say, politics or kids. So when you do feel an immediate click, go ahead and trust your instincts.<br /><br />Still, love at first sight doesn't happen to everyone. In one survey by Ayala Malach-Pines, PhD, of <st1:placename st="on">Ben-Gurion</st1:placename><st1:placetype st="on">University</st1:placetype> in <st1:country-region st="on"><st1:place st="on">Israel</st1:place></st1:country-region>, only 11 percent of the 493 respondents said their long-term relationships started that way. As for the rest of us? Psychologists say that the more you interact with a person you like (even slightly), the more you come to regard him as good-looking, smart, and similar to you—unless you discover something that breaks the spell. So it's wise to hang in for a second meeting. It can take years sometimes for two people to fully appreciate each other. But whether it's love at first sight or love in hindsight, those first three minutes are essential for romance. </span></span></p><p style="text-align: justify; font-family: georgia;font-family:trebuchet ms;" class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:100%;"><br /></span><span style=";font-size:100%;" ><o:p></o:p></span></p><span style="font-family: georgia;font-size:100%;" ><p style="text-align: right;font-family:trebuchet ms;" class="MsoNormal"><o:p>source : Oprah Magazine </o:p></p></span><p style="font-family: georgia;"></p><p face="trebuchet ms" style="text-align: right;" class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:85%;"><o:p><br /></o:p></span></p><p></p><span id="fullpost"></span><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><input id="jsProxy" onclick="jsCall();" type="hidden"> <div id="refHTML"></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><input id="jsProxy" onclick="jsCall();" type="hidden"> <div id="refHTML"></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><input id="jsProxy" onclick="jsCall();" type="hidden"> <div id="refHTML"></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><!--Session data--><input onclick="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" type="hidden"><div id="refHTML"></div>Trizzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06057683308455025243noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1283628072469411447.post-91746100322410606842009-11-15T10:21:00.010+07:002009-12-03T18:12:27.384+07:00<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/Sv96fnz-qwI/AAAAAAAAAJs/QtbDit2WkUg/s1600-h/gifts.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; width: 316px; float: left; height: 385px; cursor: pointer;" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5404172761549417218" alt="" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/Sv96fnz-qwI/AAAAAAAAAJs/QtbDit2WkUg/s320/gifts.jpg" border="0" /></a> <style> v\:* {behavior:url(#default#VML);} o\:* {behavior:url(#default#VML);} w\:* {behavior:url(#default#VML);} .shape {behavior:url(#default#VML);} </style><br /><style> <!-- /* Style Definitions */ p.MsoNormal, li.MsoNormal, div.MsoNormal {mso-style-parent:""; margin:0mm; margin-bottom:.0001pt; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:12.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";} p {mso-margin-top-alt:auto; margin-right:0mm; mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto; margin-left:0mm; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:12.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";} @page Section1 {size:612.0pt 792.0pt; margin:72.0pt 90.0pt 72.0pt 90.0pt; mso-header-margin:36.0pt; mso-footer-margin:36.0pt; mso-paper-source:0;} div.Section1 {page:Section1;} --> </style><br /><p style="text-align: left;font-family:trebuchet ms;"><span style=";font-family:georgia;font-size:180%;" >The Meaning Of Romantic Gifts From Your Lover</span></p><br /><p style="font-family:trebuchet ms;"><span style="font-size:100%;"><i style="font-weight: bold;">If She Gives</i><i style="font-weight: bold;">...</i><b><i><br /></i></b></span></p><p style="font-family:trebuchet ms;"><span style="font-size:100%;"><i>If You Give:</i> <b>A tie</b><br /><i>You're Saying:</i> "Your beer-guzzling, frat boy charm has worn off. Please get a real job."<br /><br /><i>If You Give:</i> <b>Silk boxer shorts</b><br /><i>You're Saying:</i> "The less clothing I see you in, the better, stud."<br /><br /><i>If You Give:</i> <b>A weekend vacation for two</b><br />"I like you enough to spend every moment of the entire weekend with you alone. So if you were wondering if this is serious, it is."<br /><br /><i>If You Give:</i> <b>A sports car modeling kit</b><br /><i>You're Saying:</i> "I know that deep down beneath that manly exterior lies a little boy who wants to play. I respect that."<br /><br /><i>If You Give:</i> <b>Jewelry</b><br /><i>You're Saying:</i> "Did I already mention my ring size?" </span></p><p style="font-family:trebuchet ms;"><span style="font-size:100%;"><i>If You Give:</i> <b>A shirt</b><br /><i>You're Saying:</i> "I like your style, but don't you think you'd look better in something like this?"<br /><br /><i>If You Give:</i> <b>A framed picture of the two of you</b><br /><i>You're Saying:</i> "Either wedding bells are about to ring, or I'm psychotic and will definitely stalk you if we break up."<br /><br /><i>If You Give:</i> <b>Tickets to a hockey game</b><br /><i>You're Saying:</i> "Take me to this game and help me learn more about your interests. Take a friend and lose me forever."<br /><br /><i>If You Give:</i> <b>A best-selling book</b><br /><i>You're Saying:</i> "I don't know you that well, but other people liked this, so why shouldn't you?"<br /><br /><i>If You Give:</i> <b>A handmade sweater</b><br /><i>You're Saying:</i> "I'm definite marriage material, if you like the Martha Stewart type." </span></p><p style="font-family:trebuchet ms;"><span class="fullpost" style="font-size:100%;"><br /></span></p><p style="font-weight: bold; font-style: italic;font-family:trebuchet ms;"><span class="fullpost" style="font-size:100%;">If He Gives...</span></p><p style="font-family:trebuchet ms;"><span class="fullpost" style="font-size:100%;">If He Gives: A<strong> necklace<br /></strong>He's Saying: "I really care about you and want you to think about me every time you wear this."<br /><br />If He Gives: <strong>Lingerie<br /></strong>He's Saying: "I already think you're sexy, but I've fantasized about seeing you in something like this."<br /><br />If He Gives: <strong>A Cuisinart<br /></strong>He's Saying: "I don't know how to tell you this, but I'm not attracted to you anymore."<br /><br />If He Gives: <strong>A puppy</strong><br />He's Saying: "I can already visualize the house, the picket fence and the children too."<br /><br />If He Gives: <strong>A sweater<br /></strong>He's Saying: "I've got no imagination and I probably gave the same gift to my mother."<br /><br />If He Gives: <strong>A weekend vacation for two</strong><br />He's Saying: "I want 48 hours of uninterrupted sex."<br /><br />If He Gives: <strong>A new perfume</strong><br />He's Saying: "My ex-girlfriend wore what you wear now, so please try this."<br /><br />If He Gives: <strong>A cellular phone<br /></strong>He's Saying: "Either I'm genuinely concerned about your safety or I need to be able to reach you every second of every minute of every day."<br /><br />If He Gives: <strong>A CD you've wanted for months<br /></strong>He's Saying: "I am a good listener and I've got a great memory."<br /><br />If He Gives: <strong>A poem<br /></strong>He's Saying: "I'm a romantic in love. And I'm broke<br /></span></p><p face="trebuchet ms"><i><br /></i></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:trebuchet ms;"><span style="font-size:85%;"><o:p></o:p></span></p><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><input id="jsProxy" onclick="jsCall();" type="hidden"> <div id="refHTML"></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><!--Session data--><input onclick="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" type="hidden"><div id="refHTML"></div>Trizzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06057683308455025243noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1283628072469411447.post-39400435087575295342009-11-12T13:02:00.014+07:002009-12-03T18:14:37.126+07:00<span style="font-family:georgia;"><span style="font-size:180%;">Ladies Love Unavailable Men</span><br /><br /><style> <!-- /* Font Definitions */ @font-face {font-family:Wingdings; panose-1:5 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0; mso-font-charset:2; mso-generic-font-family:auto; mso-font-pitch:variable; mso-font-signature:0 268435456 0 0 -2147483648 0;} @font-face {font-family:"Trebuchet MS"; panose-1:2 11 6 3 2 2 2 2 2 4; mso-font-charset:0; mso-generic-font-family:swiss; mso-font-pitch:variable; mso-font-signature:647 0 0 0 159 0;} @font-face {font-family:"Comic Sans MS"; panose-1:3 15 7 2 3 3 2 2 2 4; mso-font-charset:0; mso-generic-font-family:script; mso-font-pitch:variable; mso-font-signature:647 0 0 0 159 0;} /* Style Definitions */ p.MsoNormal, li.MsoNormal, div.MsoNormal {mso-style-parent:""; margin:0mm; margin-bottom:.0001pt; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:12.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";} @page Section1 {size:612.0pt 792.0pt; margin:72.0pt 90.0pt 72.0pt 90.0pt; mso-header-margin:36.0pt; mso-footer-margin:36.0pt; mso-paper-source:0;} div.Section1 {page:Section1;} /* List Definitions */ @list l0 {mso-list-id:155650005; mso-list-template-ids:967864344;} @list l0:level1 {mso-level-number-format:bullet; mso-level-text:; mso-level-tab-stop:36.0pt; mso-level-number-position:left; text-indent:-18.0pt; mso-ansi-font-size:10.0pt; font-family:Symbol;} @list l1 {mso-list-id:203912911; mso-list-template-ids:1299503728;} @list l1:level1 {mso-level-number-format:bullet; mso-level-text:; mso-level-tab-stop:36.0pt; mso-level-number-position:left; text-indent:-18.0pt; mso-ansi-font-size:10.0pt; font-family:Symbol;} @list l2 {mso-list-id:1416634699; mso-list-template-ids:-283867756;} @list l2:level1 {mso-level-number-format:bullet; mso-level-text:; mso-level-tab-stop:36.0pt; mso-level-number-position:left; text-indent:-18.0pt; mso-ansi-font-size:10.0pt; font-family:Symbol;} @list l3 {mso-list-id:1817337117; mso-list-template-ids:-160523486;} @list l3:level1 {mso-level-number-format:bullet; mso-level-text:; mso-level-tab-stop:36.0pt; mso-level-number-position:left; text-indent:-18.0pt; mso-ansi-font-size:10.0pt; font-family:Symbol;} ol {margin-bottom:0mm;} ul {margin-bottom:0mm;} --> </style><br /><style> <!-- /* Font Definitions */ @font-face {font-family:Wingdings; panose-1:5 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0; mso-font-charset:2; mso-generic-font-family:auto; mso-font-pitch:variable; mso-font-signature:0 268435456 0 0 -2147483648 0;} /* Style Definitions */ p.MsoNormal, li.MsoNormal, div.MsoNormal {mso-style-parent:""; margin:0mm; margin-bottom:.0001pt; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:12.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";} @page Section1 {size:612.0pt 792.0pt; margin:72.0pt 90.0pt 72.0pt 90.0pt; mso-header-margin:36.0pt; mso-footer-margin:36.0pt; mso-paper-source:0;} div.Section1 {page:Section1;} /* List Definitions */ @list l0 {mso-list-id:155650005; mso-list-template-ids:967864344;} @list l0:level1 {mso-level-number-format:bullet; mso-level-text:; mso-level-tab-stop:36.0pt; mso-level-number-position:left; text-indent:-18.0pt; mso-ansi-font-size:10.0pt; font-family:Symbol;} @list l1 {mso-list-id:203912911; mso-list-template-ids:1299503728;} @list l1:level1 {mso-level-number-format:bullet; mso-level-text:; mso-level-tab-stop:36.0pt; mso-level-number-position:left; text-indent:-18.0pt; mso-ansi-font-size:10.0pt; font-family:Symbol;} @list l2 {mso-list-id:1416634699; mso-list-template-ids:-283867756;} @list l2:level1 {mso-level-number-format:bullet; mso-level-text:; mso-level-tab-stop:36.0pt; mso-level-number-position:left; text-indent:-18.0pt; mso-ansi-font-size:10.0pt; font-family:Symbol;} @list l3 {mso-list-id:1817337117; mso-list-template-ids:-160523486;} @list l3:level1 {mso-level-number-format:bullet; mso-level-text:; mso-level-tab-stop:36.0pt; mso-level-number-position:left; text-indent:-18.0pt; mso-ansi-font-size:10.0pt; font-family:Symbol;} ol {margin-bottom:0mm;} ul {margin-bottom:0mm;} --> </style></span><p style="text-align: justify; font-family: georgia;font-family:trebuchet ms;" class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:100%;">It seems she’s everywhere. That Girl. She may be eyeing you from across a crowded dance</span><span style="font-size:100%;"> </span><span style="font-size:100%;">fl</span><span style="font-size:100%;">o</span><span style="font-size:100%;">o</span><span style="font-size:100%;">r</span><span style="font-size:100%;"> </span><span style="font-size:100%;">w</span><span style="font-size:100%;">h</span><span style="font-size:100%;">ile she grinds seductively against her girl friend. She could be your “platonic” friend who seems to be in a perpetual stat</span><span style="font-size:100%;">e of</span><span style="font-size:100%;"> </span><span style="font-size:100%;">crisis, calling for comfort in the wee hours of the morning a little too frequently. Maybe she’s the receptionist at your office o</span><span style="font-size:100%;">r</span><span style="font-size:100%;"> an online friend who wants to be more. There’s just one problem - you already have a girlfriend.</span></p><p style="text-align: justify;font-family:trebuchet ms;" class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:85%;"><br /></span></p><p face="trebuchet ms" style="text-align: justify;" class="MsoNormal"><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/SwO1zO3CfpI/AAAAAAAAAKc/cP06lOX0peo/s1600/flirts.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; width: 287px; float: right; height: 387px; cursor: pointer;" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5405363869541629586" alt="" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/SwO1zO3CfpI/AAAAAAAAAKc/cP06lOX0peo/s320/flirts.jpg" border="0" /></a></p><p style="text-align: justify; font-family: georgia;font-family:trebuchet ms;" class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:100%;">That Girl is the one with designs on stealing you away from your committed relationship and if you aren’t careful, her very presence could cause your happy twosome to come apart at the seams. Sure, you ca th</span><span style="font-size:100%;">in</span><span style="font-size:100%;">k o</span><span style="font-size:100%;">f plenty</span><span style="font-size:100%;"> of ideas to excuse her behavior: she’s just drunk, she’s only a friend, she looks up to me. Despite your justifications, this gir</span><span style="font-size:100%;">l may be hatching schemes to get between you and your partner. If you want to keep your happy home trouble free, it’s helpful to be aware of some of the motivations these girls might have so you can avoid falling into an inappropriate situatio</span><span style="font-size:85%;"><span style="font-size:100%;">n. </span><o:p></o:p></span></p><ul style="text-align: justify; font-family: georgia; font-weight: bold;"><li><span style=";font-size:100%;" >Low Self-esteem</span></li></ul><div style="text-align: justify; font-family: georgia;"><br /><br /></div><p style="text-align: justify; font-family: georgia;font-family:trebuchet ms;" class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:100%;">In most cases, the reason these girls go for someone who is already </span><span style="font-size:100%;">attached is </span><span style="font-size:100%;">that they</span><span style="font-size:100%;"> have a very low opinion </span><span style="font-size:85%;"><span style="font-size:100%;">of themselves. Outwardly, she may be acting like she’s God’s gift to everyone else’s boyfriend, but inside she’s just too scared to approach an available guy for fear of getting shot down. If she can’t get in your pants, at least she can blame it on your girl’s presence and not her own qualities (or lack thereof). </span><o:p></o:p></span></p><ul style="text-align: justify; font-family: georgia;font-family:webdings;"><li><span style=";font-size:100%;" ><b>Idle Time</b></span><span style=";font-size:85%;" ><b><br /></b></span></li></ul><div style="text-align: justify; font-family: georgia;"><br /></div><p style="text-align: justify; font-family: georgia;font-family:trebuchet ms;" class="MsoNormal"><span style=";font-size:85%;" ><span style="font-size:100%;">Some of these girls are simply bored and going to a club to hit on other people’s dates is just part of the fun of a Saturday night. This motivation is usually fairly harmless and rarely carries on longer than the night in question. However, if you start responding to her come-ons, you could have a fight to take home with you. Steer clear of the slutty drunk chick that seems oblivious to the fact that you’re paired up.</span><br /></span></p><ul style="font-weight: bold; font-family: georgia;"><li><span style="font-size:100%;"><span class="fullpost">She Loves Drama</span></span></li></ul><p style="text-align: justify; font-family: georgia;font-family:trebuchet ms;" class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:85%;"><span class="fullpost"><br /><span style="font-size:100%;">This is a similar motivation to boredom, but more far-reaching. The girls addicted to drama are going to take time to build a foundation of trust with you. This is usually centered on turning to you with some kind of emotional crisis. The most effective way to cement this “support system” is to confide to you the terrible breakup she’s going through with an allegedly abusive guy. If you have even one sensitive bone in your body, you’re going to find it difficult to turn away from a heartbroken girl who has been treated like garbage by a scum bag guy. For the sake of your relationship, take it easy on the all night cry fests. It’s good to be a friend, but your girlfriend is the one that deserves the majority of your emotional support.</span><br /></span></span></p><ul style="font-family: georgia;"><li><span style="font-size:85%;"><span class="fullpost"><span style="font-weight: bold;font-size:100%;" >Father Figure Issues<br /></span></span></span></li></ul><p style="text-align: justify; font-family: georgia;font-family:trebuchet ms;" class="MsoNormal" ><span style="font-size:85%;"><span class="fullpost"><br /><span style="font-size:100%;">They say girls seek out mates that are like their fathers. If her father habitually cheated on her mother, or left the family for another woman, she could be repeating this relationship pattern, consciously or unconsciously. Trying to get a guy to stray from his commitment just proves a self-fulfilling prophecy for her. She believes all men will cheat, so she might as well help.</span><br /></span></span></p><ul style="font-weight: bold; font-family: georgia;"><li><span style="font-size:100%;"><span class="fullpost">Real Feelings </span></span></li></ul><p style="text-align: justify; font-family: georgia;" class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:85%;"><span class="fullpost"><br /><span style="font-size:100%;">This is less likely to happen in real life than romantic comedies would have you believe. People rarely fall totally in love with someone else’s mate unless the mate is willing to stray. If what she has is a passing crush or a case of puppy love, you don’t have to worry. The infatuation should fade if you make the boundaries clear. However, if her feelings run deeper, you’ll have a more difficult task on your hands. Let her down gently, but make sure she knows how in love with your girlfriend you are. She has to know beyond a shadow of a doubt that she has no chance of breaking you two up.<br /></span><br /></span></span></p><div style="text-align: justify; font-family: georgia;"></div><br /><p class="MsoNormal"><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><!--Session data--><input id="jsProxy" onclick="jsCall();" type="hidden"> </p><div id="refHTML"></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><input id="jsProxy" onclick="jsCall();" type="hidden"> <div id="refHTML"></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><input id="jsProxy" onclick="jsCall();" type="hidden"> <div id="refHTML"></div>Trizzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06057683308455025243noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1283628072469411447.post-32058175789843487462009-11-12T11:14:00.013+07:002009-12-03T18:15:51.906+07:00<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/SvuVsPrHJ_I/AAAAAAAAAI8/3XxE-O6AFm0/s1600-h/angry-girl.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; width: 256px; float: left; height: 200px; cursor: pointer;" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5403076765315180530" alt="" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/SvuVsPrHJ_I/AAAAAAAAAI8/3XxE-O6AFm0/s320/angry-girl.jpg" border="0" /></a><span style="font-size:180%;"><span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;"> How To Overcome Jealousy In Your Relationship</span></span><br /><br /><br /><style> <!-- /* Style Definitions */ p.MsoNormal, li.MsoNormal, div.MsoNormal {mso-style-parent:""; margin:0mm; margin-bottom:.0001pt; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:12.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";} p {mso-margin-top-alt:auto; margin-right:0mm; mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto; margin-left:0mm; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:12.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";} @page Section1 {size:612.0pt 792.0pt; margin:72.0pt 90.0pt 72.0pt 90.0pt; mso-header-margin:36.0pt; mso-footer-margin:36.0pt; mso-paper-source:0;} div.Section1 {page:Section1;} --> </style><span style="font-weight: bold; font-family: georgia;">Jealousy</span><span style="font-family: georgia;"> is a human emotion that we all instinctively experience at some point in our lives. Jealousy can refer to a strong desire for or envy of someone else’s success, stature, or possessions.</span><br /><p style="font-family:trebuchet ms;"><span style="font-family:georgia;"><br /><span style="font-family: georgia;">Taken in a social context, it can refer to a perceived threat to a valued relationship or to its quality. Jealousy may cause someone to be doubtful of his or her partner and feel threatened by his or her interaction with certain people. It involves a fear of losing the other person.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: georgia;">There are different kinds of jealousy and educating yourself on them may help you and your partner develop a stronger relationship.</span><br /><br /><b style="font-style: italic; font-family: georgia;">Healthy Jealousy</b><br /><br /><span style="font-family: georgia;">Jealousy doesn’t necessarily indicate negative connotations in all cases. After all, it is quite natural for men and women to be protective and possessive of the one that they love. In a relationship, when feelings of jealousy are mild and occasional, it reminds the couple not to take each other for granted. It can encourage couples to appreciate one another and make an effort to ensure the other person feels valued.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: georgia;">Having reservations about your significant other going to a strip club, the sight of him or her drooling over an attractive person of the opposite sex, or witnessing him or her flirting with someone else are innocent examples of how jealousy can be a perfectly normal reaction.</span><br /><br /><b style="font-style: italic; font-family: georgia;">Destructive Jealousy</b><br /></span><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/Svudih_e_zI/AAAAAAAAAJU/PYA80n-cJnA/s1600-h/i_jealous_sister.jpg"><span style="font-family:georgia;"><img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; width: 320px; float: left; height: 247px; cursor: pointer;" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5403085394526797618" alt="" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/Svudih_e_zI/AAAAAAAAAJU/PYA80n-cJnA/s320/i_jealous_sister.jpg" border="0" /></span></a><span style="font-family:georgia;"><br /><span style="font-family: georgia;">Sometimes, jealous feelings can balloon out of proportion. It is a completely different story when jealousy becomes frequent, intense, and irrational. Once you reach this stage, you obsessively begin to question your lover’s loyalty to you and it sends you into a blind rage. You may even try to restrict your partner’s interactions with other people and constantly monitor where he or she goes and what he or she does.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: georgia;">If you can’t control your jealousy, it is bound to be detrimental to your relationship. It eats away at the most important thing holding it together – trust. It can leave your loved one constantly feeling like they are walking on eggshells.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: georgia;">If you find yourself drifting into the realm of harmful and unhealthy jealousy, there are things you can do to prevent it from ruining your current and future relationships.</span></span></p><p style="font-family:trebuchet ms;"><span style="font-family: georgia;" class="fullpost"><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Identify the Root of the Problem</span><br /><br />What is causing this unfounded jealousy? You may behave this way because you have been cheated on in the past. This may cause you to be more possessive and controlling in a new relationship for fear of repetition, even if he or she has never given you a reason to be doubtful.<br /><br />If this is the case, it is important to deal with these feelings and insecurities before you enter a new relationship. Harboring unresolved feelings from past relationships is a sure sign that you aren’t ready for a new one.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Give yourself a Reality Check</span><br /><br />Focus on what is really happening, not what you perceive to be happening. How realistic is the threat? What evidence do you have that your relationship is in danger? Distinguish fact from fiction.<br /><br />If you have no solid grounds for feeling jealous, your false accusations will cause a lot of unnecessary strain on the relationship. Don’t let your imagination draw a negative picture of your partner.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Positive Self-Talk</span><br /><br />Sometimes, you need to give yourself a pep talk. When you start feeling those twinges of jealousy, remind yourself that your partner loves you and is committed to you. Realize that he or she is with you for a reason. These self-affirmations can help you boost your confidence.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Seek Reassurance</span><br /><br />If you can’t talk yourself out of a jealous funk, perhaps communicating your feelings will help resolve your insecurities. One of the best ways to beat jealousy is to ask your partner for reassurance. Make sure you don’t take an accusatory, nagging, or bullying tone with him or her. Instead, share your feelings of doubt and ask them to help you overcome them.<br /><br />By communicating your feelings, you can work out solutions together.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Get an Objective Opinion</span><br /><br />Ask a close friend to take note of your behaviour around your boyfriend or girlfriend. Sometimes, you aren’t fully aware of your actions, especially when emotions like jealousy cloud your judgment. By getting a neutral party’s perspective, it can help you fully understand the extent of your actions.<br /><br />A good friend will let you know if your behaviour is out of control and destructive.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Set Boundaries from the Start</span><br /><br />Try establishing some general guidelines at the beginning of the relationship. Let your partner know what is and isn’t acceptable for you. Be careful not to use this piece of advice as a means to control your boyfriend or girlfriend, just let him or her know what makes you tick.<br /><br />For example, how far is too far when it comes to flirting? Telling your partner what makes you uncomfortable can also help you trust him or her more since you are divulging sensitive feelings.<br /><br /></span><b style="font-style: italic;"><br /></b></p><p class="MsoNormal" face="trebuchet ms"><o:p></o:p></p><p style="font-family: trebuchet ms;"></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:trebuchet ms;"><span style="font-size:85%;"><o:p></o:p></span></p><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><input id="jsProxy" onclick="jsCall();" type="hidden"> <div id="refHTML"></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><input id="jsProxy" onclick="jsCall();" type="hidden"> <div id="refHTML"></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><input id="jsProxy" onclick="jsCall();" type="hidden"> <div id="refHTML"></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><!--Session data--><input onclick="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" type="hidden"><div id="refHTML"></div>Trizzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06057683308455025243noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1283628072469411447.post-20790734633903925312009-11-11T23:03:00.008+07:002009-12-03T18:19:46.846+07:00<span style="font-size:180%;"><span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;">Ways To Increase Your Love</span> </span><br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/SvkFSRCP0fI/AAAAAAAAAHo/7QLRenmv_ZQ/s1600-h/00013.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; width: 320px; float: right; height: 232px; cursor: pointer;" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5402355039376232946" alt="" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/SvkFSRCP0fI/AAAAAAAAAHo/7QLRenmv_ZQ/s320/00013.jpg" border="0" /></a> <o:smarttagtype name="place" namespaceuri="urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:smarttags"></o:smarttagtype><o:smarttagtype name="City" namespaceuri="urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:smarttags"></o:smarttagtype><object id="ieooui" classid="clsid:38481807-CA0E-42D2-BF39-B33AF135CC4D"></object><style> st1\:*{behavior:url(#ieooui) } </style><br /><style> <!-- /* Style Definitions */ p.MsoNormal, li.MsoNormal, div.MsoNormal {mso-style-parent:""; margin:0mm; margin-bottom:.0001pt; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:12.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";} p {mso-margin-top-alt:auto; margin-right:0mm; mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto; margin-left:0mm; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:12.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";} @page Section1 {size:612.0pt 792.0pt; margin:72.0pt 90.0pt 72.0pt 90.0pt; mso-header-margin:36.0pt; mso-footer-margin:36.0pt; mso-paper-source:0;} div.Section1 {page:Section1;} --> </style><br /><p style="text-align: justify; font-family: georgia;font-family:trebuchet ms;"><span style="font-size:100%;"><span style="font-size:180%;">F</span>or most couples, whether married or in a long-term relationship, it can be a difficult transition once the "honeymoon" stage is over. The initial lust and butterflies in the stomach you once felt may have given way to a more laid-back, comfortable feeling with your significant other. It is normal for long-standing relationships to cool down after a while and this is when the real relationship building begins.<br /><br />A good partnership is like tending to a pet - either you feed and nurture it, or bad things will happen. The small things you do become important. Daily habits help to forge strong relationships and marriages. It can be as simple as remembering to tell your partner "I love you," everyday.<br /><br />If you are really serious about making your relationship work, there are several little rituals that you can incorporate into your daily life.<br /><br /><b>Talk To Each Other<br /></b><br />Most relationship experts would agree that talking is the most important elements of a healthy partnership. Happy couples typically say their relationship works better when they can sit down one-on-one, share their feelings and work out their frustrations. Topics of discussion can extend past your relationship. Talk about work, how your day is going, or something funny that happened to you.<br /><br />Many couples may complain that it is hard to find time in their busy day to have a daily couple's pow-wow. Well, it doesn't have to be an hour-long psych session each day. You simply have to set aside a few minutes for your special someone. For example, do a "weather" check during the day. Call your partner at home or at work to see how his/her day is going. By doing this, you will be more in sync when you reconnect after work.<br /><br />If you have a pet dog, how about walking it together every night? The quiet time and fresh air can be your chance to focus on each other. If you have missed each other during the day, be sure to catch up at night right before going to bed. It is in this relaxed atmosphere that you can unwind and tell your partner about your busy day.<br /><br />When you live together, you may automatically think you know everything about your lover. In reality though, it is very easy for life to get in the way if you don't take the time to connect with each other.<span class="fullpost"><br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Flirt</span><br /><br />Flirting isn't just for teenagers and couples on their first date. Part of a healthy sexual relationship involves flirting with each other everyday. And it doesn't just have to be a form of foreplay. Even on the nights when you are just too doggone tired to be intimate in bed, flirting can be a fun way to keep the zest in your relationship.<br /><br />Don't be embarrassed about flirting in public either. Show off the strength of your relationship with a little PDA (public displays of affection). Walk hand in hand and try to steal a quick hug or kiss whenever you can. Most importantly, don't forget to say "I love you," as much as possible throughout the day.</span></span></p><p style="text-align: justify; font-family: georgia;font-family:trebuchet ms;"><span style="font-size:100%;"><span class="fullpost"><span style="font-weight: bold;">Be Silly Together</span><br /><br />Life is serious enough. Sometimes you just need to do something really silly. And if you can't do it with your significant other, who can you be silly with? When you find the time, try reliving your childhood by visiting an amusement park. Go on all the scary rides and eat all the sweets you can until your stomach can take no more.<br /><br />For a daily ritual that you and your partner can share at home, try playing a game of Twister. The contorted positions you will find yourselves in will have you laughing in no time. Or kick back and watch a funny TV show that both of you enjoy. Whatever you do, the important thing is to laugh and have fun together.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Declare Your Independence</span><br /><br />Remember that healthy relationships are made up of two independent people who have their own personalities and interests. It's not good for the relationship to be constantly joined at the hip. So also make a daily habit of getting away from each other. Peruse your own hobbies and interests.<br /><br />Doing things separately gives you a chance to fill in the blanks that your partner may not be able to fill for you. For example, if one of you likes sports and the other likes the arts, use your alone time to go to the gym or enroll in a painting class. At the end of your day, you will find that you have more to talk about. It will help bring freshness to the relationship, as you both continue to grow as people.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Cultivate Common Interests</span><br /><br />Along with developing your personal interests, apart from one another, it is also essential to find something you can do together. The emphasis is on finding an activity you can both enjoy. Although your definition of fun may be going shopping, he may not enjoy being dragged along.<br /><br />If common interests are not present, happy couples develop them. Try working out at the gym together. Or take some classes together until you find something you both like. Maybe you'll both fall in love with cooking and connect each night by preparing dinner together.<br /><br /></span></span></p><p style="text-align: justify;font-family:trebuchet ms;"><span style="font-size:85%;"><b><br /></b></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:trebuchet ms;"><span style="font-size:85%;"><o:p></o:p></span></p><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><input id="jsProxy" onclick="jsCall();" type="hidden"> <div id="refHTML"></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><input id="jsProxy" onclick="jsCall();" type="hidden"> <div id="refHTML"></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><!--Session data--><input onclick="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" type="hidden"><div id="refHTML"></div>Trizzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06057683308455025243noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1283628072469411447.post-22422102749247175452009-11-11T21:53:00.012+07:002009-12-03T18:28:03.029+07:00<div style="text-align: center;"><br /><div style="text-align: left;font-family:trebuchet ms;"><span style="font-size:85%;"><span style="font-size:180%;">True Love Or F</span></span><span style="font-size:85%;"><span style="font-size:180%;">ake Love </span></span></div></div><span style="font-family: georgia;font-family:trebuchet ms;font-size:130%;" ><span style="font-weight: bold;">( </span>How To Know If It Is Real<span style="font-weight: bold;"> )</span> </span><br /><br /><br /><div style="text-align: left;"><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/SvrV2QfQOSI/AAAAAAAAAIw/FHHmjcFwdPs/s1600-h/real_love__by_vanilla_tapes.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; width: 399px; float: left; height: 327px; cursor: pointer;" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5402865831100037410" alt="" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_blFms3Ngxdo/SvrV2QfQOSI/AAAAAAAAAIw/FHHmjcFwdPs/s320/real_love__by_vanilla_tapes.jpg" border="0" /></a></div><br /><br /><br /><br /><span style="font-size:85%;"><span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;"><span style="font-size:180%;"><br /></span></span></span><br /><style> <!-- /* Font Definitions */ @font-face {font-family:Wingdings; panose-1:5 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0 0; mso-font-charset:2; mso-generic-font-family:auto; mso-font-pitch:variable; mso-font-signature:0 268435456 0 0 -2147483648 0;} /* Style Definitions */ p.MsoNormal, li.MsoNormal, div.MsoNormal {mso-style-parent:""; margin:0mm; margin-bottom:.0001pt; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:12.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";} p {mso-margin-top-alt:auto; margin-right:0mm; mso-margin-bottom-alt:auto; margin-left:0mm; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:12.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";} @page Section1 {size:612.0pt 792.0pt; margin:72.0pt 90.0pt 72.0pt 90.0pt; mso-header-margin:36.0pt; mso-footer-margin:36.0pt; mso-paper-source:0;} div.Section1 {page:Section1;} /* List Definitions */ @list l0 {mso-list-id:1203175509; mso-list-template-ids:-521996350;} @list l0:level1 {mso-level-number-format:bullet; mso-level-text:; mso-level-tab-stop:36.0pt; mso-level-number-position:left; text-indent:-18.0pt; mso-ansi-font-size:10.0pt; font-family:Symbol;} @list l1 {mso-list-id:1342657367; mso-list-template-ids:-539035308;} @list l1:level1 {mso-level-number-format:bullet; mso-level-text:; mso-level-tab-stop:36.0pt; mso-level-number-position:left; text-indent:-18.0pt; mso-ansi-font-size:10.0pt; font-family:Symbol;} ol {margin-bottom:0mm;} ul {margin-bottom:0mm;} --> </style><br /><p style="font-family:trebuchet ms;"><span style="font-size:85%;"><span style="font-size:180%;"><br /></span></span></p><p style="font-family:trebuchet ms;"><span style="font-size:85%;"><span style="font-size:180%;"><br /></span></span></p><p style="font-family:trebuchet ms;"><span style="font-size:85%;"><span style="font-size:180%;"><br /></span></span></p><p style="font-family:trebuchet ms;"><span style="font-size:85%;"><span style="font-size:180%;"><br /></span></span></p><p style="font-family:trebuchet ms;"><span style="font-size:85%;"><span style="font-size:180%;"><br /></span></span></p><p style="font-family: georgia;font-family:trebuchet ms;" ><span style="font-size:180%;">F</span><span style="font-size:100%;">inding out if what you have is true love can be tricky. Feelings must be analyzed before they can be identified for what they truly are. 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